MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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- Apr 30, 2006
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I blame low testosterone.I see more "couples" on Tinder looking for 3-somes than ever before. Also see more married women on Tinder looking for "boyfriends". I see more men willing to loan their wife out so she can get railed by some other dude.(insane) Even know 2 couples that do this.
I see less people that value relationships than ever before. People don't want to make the effort, its easier to throw the relationship away when it becomes too difficult and find a new one.
The entire "sexual revolution" makes me want to give up on any type of meaningful relationship and fuhk anything and everything (semi-attractive) that walks. Maybe even become the single male star of the swingers club and fuhk every dudes hot wife!![]()