penkitten
Master Don Juan
i am a mother, so i always preach milk is good for you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mother's milk is AWESOME.. but once breastfeeding stops, putting cow's milk into your children's bodies is close enough to poisoning them. (even if they have no discernable reactions e.g. stomach issues)penkitten said:i am a mother, so i always preach milk is good for you.
15g of protein is fine if you're a hamster. add some protein powder to your cereal or have eggs with it (or both)i am me said:its all i hav time for cus i got early classes...but at least it has like 15g of protein and lots of fiber in it
milk builds strong bones and is a wonderful source of calcium.Warboss Alex said:mother's milk is AWESOME.. but once breastfeeding stops, putting cow's milk into your children's bodies is close enough to poisoning them. (even if they have no discernable reactions e.g. stomach issues)
no it doesn't and there are way better sources of calcium. do some research, or at least read the article!penkitten said:milk builds strong bones and is a wonderful source of calcium.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
dude read the article yourself where it says :Warboss Alex said:no it doesn't and there are way better sources of calcium. do some research, or at least read the article!
older and wiser sweet pea...Warboss Alex said:it's harder to teach the older generation these things (no offence) because the pro-milk mantra has been ingrained for longer. just like the anti-fat consensus.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
yogurt contains milk,and it sounds like you are allergic so that is why you used to have problems with it.Warboss Alex said:if it is live culture yogurt then it's fine because the bacteria will help you digest it (ironic you need bacteria to digest lactose huh..) and provide lots of probiotic goodness. I have no issues with yogurt but stuff like milk/cottage cheese gives me terrible stomach trouble..
if you are talking yogurt with added sugar then no, I wouldn't touch it but natural, live culture yogurt is okay, in fact it's good for you. just that it doesn't have enough protein to be a viable source but the way you have it is just fine
weirdly enough, large amounts of yogurt USED to give me issues but milk didn't.. now it's the opposite (and has been for years).
yogurt contains lactose but also the enzymes (in its live cultures) to digest it, I think it was just the quantities in which I used to eat it which gave me problems (it'd give anyone problemspenkitten said:yogurt contains milk,and it sounds like you are allergic so that is why you used to have problems with it.
http://www.stonyfield.com/OurProducts/WholeMilkYogurt.cfm#javascript:void(0)Warboss Alex said:yogurt contains lactose but also the enzymes (in its live cultures) to digest it, I think it was just the quantities in which I used to eat it which gave me problems (it'd give anyone problems, I was addicted to the stuff)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SinJester said:Heck I know 40 year olds that have drank litres of ice coffee a day for most of their lives, and they are perfectly healthy (apart from some yellowed teeth).QUOTE]
apart from obeasity, diabetes, bowel/stomach problems and acne it's fine.
It's really unfortunate how ignorant people can reproduce so easilypenkitten said:i am a mother, so i always preach milk is good for you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.