article: How to be the kind of man women actually want to marry

[MatureDJ]

https://archive.is/PV74W#selection-217.0-217.54

Here is an article by the same author, referenced in the above article:

https://archive.is/20250821230554/https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2025/08/08/men-women-dating-marriage/

 

[BaronOfHair]

https://archive.is/PV74W#selection-217.0-217.54

Article opens with the words: "There’s something unsettling about watching a society grapple with what it means to be a man"

I remain perturbed by the fact that most commentators act as if this is a "problem" that only recently developed

Note the date both of these were published. And there's no shortage of screeds along these lines to which predate these texts. In any event, Reeves and the rest of these half-wits pursue the wrong goal... Start becoming the best version of yourself. A byproduct of that = Becoming husband material

 

[Alvafe]

the real question is.
Why I would want that?

 

[MatureDJ]

Article opens with the words: "There’s something unsettling about watching a society grapple with what it means to be a man"

I remain perturbed by the fact that most commentators act as if this is a "problem" that only recently developed

Note the date both of these were published. And there's no shortage of screeds along these lines to which predate these texts. In any event, Reeves and the rest of these half-wits pursue the wrong goal... Start becoming the best version of yourself. A byproduct of that = Becoming husband material

What if the best version of yourself is monkdom?

 

[MatureDJ]

Article opens with the words: "There’s something unsettling about watching a society grapple with what it means to be a man"

I remain perturbed by the fact that most commentators act as if this is a "problem" that only recently developed

Note the date both of these were published. And there's no shortage of screeds along these lines to which predate these texts. In any event, Reeves and the rest of these half-wits pursue the wrong goal... Start becoming the best version of yourself. A byproduct of that = Becoming husband material

Here's a bit-sized article about the book:

The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: Introduction

Author Robert Moore argues that masculinity is made up of four archetypal male energies which serve different purposes.

www.artofmanliness.com

 

[BaronOfHair]

What if the best version of yourself is monkdom?

Then Hari Kari is an option, if you're a Zen Monk in Tokyo