Article: Candid Reasons why Men in Their 40s Don't Trust Women For Dating Anymore

[BackInTheGame78]

This pretty much hits the nail on the head with a lot of things, and IMO, women would be in a much better place if they started to actually understand it. Instead, many essentially become part of the problem rather than the solution.

MSN

 

[BaronOfHair]

Trusting is fine, so long as one then verifies what he's heard... As Deborah Tannen and others have noted, what chicks say Vs Our understanding of those same words frequently resemble one another less closely than f-c-ing Camden does the shores of Acapulco

 

[Solomon]

The article is spot on, as a guy who turned 40 2 years ago . All these things are spot on, if you're able to date younger women do that but once you date women in their 40s heck even 50s they play the same game as younger women except they are more mentally ran through . Also for most men espeically who got divorced or went through a nasty break up or two as mentioned in the article, it's not worth the effort even for getting a piece of ass

 

[plumber]

exceptions not included.

if a woman wants something she has two approaches. the truth, and not the truth. she will evaluate the best path to what she wants and that will become her truth. sounds really cold.... but in her mind the truth is righteous. her truth is true to her.


it usually takes a couple of decades to understand that. its not bad or evil, it is just a fact.

not trusting is not exactly the right frame, more like understanding how it works.

i trust her to follow her truth. her truth is chosen by her.

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men can be scammers, but usually they internally know it is not the truth. women actually adjust the truth for themself to fit the need.

men at 40+ usually have learned this.

 

[Westminster]

exceptions not included.

if a woman wants something she has two approaches. the truth, and not the truth. she will evaluate the best path to what she wants and that will become her truth. sounds really cold.... but in her mind the truth is righteous. her truth is true to her.


it usually takes a couple of decades to understand that. its not bad or evil, it is just a fact.

not trusting is not exactly the right frame, more like understanding how it works.

i trust her to follow her truth. her truth is chosen by her.

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men can be scammers, but usually they internally know it is not the truth. women actually adjust the truth for themself to fit the need.

men at 40+ usually have learned this.

Great post, spot on.

For men, truth is based on hard, objective facts; for women it's much more fluid.

 

[Scaramouche]

Great post, spot on.

For men, truth is based on hard, objective facts; for women it's much more fluid.

Yeah,Generally true of Western women,but that's not ALL Women...Over the last twenty years I have mostly indulged in dalliance with Chinese Women though not without their faults,they are more traditional in their values,and make much better partners.

 

[LTG71]

Good article. By 40, most have reached a maturity level that is tired with these types of behaviors and/or situations. If a woman is not tied down by this age, then she must be trouble. Men know this inherently. Either she is divorced, left a LTR, or is an insufferable mess that no man wants to deal with.

Men operate in a different social structure that values integrity, loyalty, respect and reputation. Women often violate this unwritten code of conduct. Men see these behaviors as disrespectful and eventually avoid these types of situations.

 

[The Duke]

Great post, spot on.

For men, truth is based on hard, objective facts; for women it's much more fluid.

Everything they do is driven by their emotions, this is why their facts are so fluid. This is exactly why women should not be in leadership positions and want to be led in their romantic relationships. They need structure and strength and all crave it. Its why weak, more feminine men struggle in romantic relationships.

Respect, honor, and loyalty are important to men and not so much women. One is rooted in reality, the other is not. You can't ever fully trust someone that bleeds out once a month and is regulated by their hormones, especially when society lets them run free like they do these days.

Enjoy them for what they are, not for what they aren't.

ps, there is a female poster on this forum, notice how fluid she is with her belief's. I refuse to interact with her, but I watch some of you engage her and she will change her opinion to match whomever is over her. Very weak backbone. Very chameleon like. She says one thing one day, and something else the next, all because her emotions made her feel different. The severe cases like her are horrible to date. One day you are the greastest thing ever, the next day you aren't what she wants. If she is that wishy-washy about her beliefs, she will be wishy-washy with her feelings towards you and some day you get put out to pasture.

 

[Gamisch]

This pretty much hits the nail on the head with a lot of things, and IMO, women would be in a much better place if they started to actually understand it. Instead, many essentially become part of the problem rather than the solution.

MSN

Nah, women won't ever understand. This is however a "healthy " path most men will have to go through...

Imo the trick is to realize this as soon as possible. At 40 a man can literally be prime in a lot of categories: financially stable, physical and spiritual development , experience with women in all kinds of way ( the good the bad and the ugly), accepting trauma, and being realistic about human nature regarding friends foes and family, understanding the power of the dollar/ euro..

And the crazy thing is that once you get there women somehow will behave better and get in line!

Hence why Im against going all in after a certain age. If you're 40+ and yet need to discover all of this, the damage might be irreversible.

Get your soul crushed in your 20's , be a king in your 50's.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Find a woman who loves you more than she loves herself. It’s possible. But uncommon. When you find her, hold onto her. Then you can stop dealing with this ****. You’ll know who she is when she starts making decisions that make absolutely no sense for her but work for you. These moments will be evident quickly. Her character will come through and these moments will remain consistent. She will tell you that you’re her favorite person. You’ll be her first phone call on all matters. You’ll eventually hear her tell you that she loves you as much as I am saying here. If that matters to you, it’s possible.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Find a woman who loves you more than she loves herself. It’s possible. But uncommon. When you find her, hold onto her. Then you can stop dealing with this ****. You’ll know who she is when she starts making decisions that make absolutely no sense for her but work for you. These moments will be evident quickly. Her character will come through and these moments will remain consistent. She will tell you that you’re her favorite person. You’ll be her first phone call on all matters. You’ll eventually hear her tell you that she loves you as much as I am saying here. If that matters to you, it’s possible.

That love only lasts until a certain point and when it disappears it tends to happen very quickly.

 

[Divorced w 3]

That love only lasts until a certain point and when it disappears it tends to happen very quickly.

Maybe

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Everything they do is driven by their emotions, this is why their facts are so fluid. This is exactly why women should not be in leadership positions and want to be led in their romantic relationships. They need structure and strength and all crave it. Its why weak, more feminine men struggle in romantic relationships.

Respect, honor, and loyalty are important to men and not so much women. One is rooted in reality, the other is not. You can't ever fully trust someone that bleeds out once a month and is regulated by their hormones, especially when society lets them run free like they do these days.

Enjoy them for what they are, not for what they aren't.

ps, there is a female poster on this forum, notice how fluid she is with her belief's. I refuse to interact with her, but I watch some of you engage her and she will change her opinion to match whomever is over her. Very weak backbone. Very chameleon like. She says one thing one day, and something else the next, all because her emotions made her feel different. The severe cases like her are horrible to date. One day you are the greastest thing ever, the next day you aren't what she wants. If she is that wishy-washy about her beliefs, she will be wishy-washy with her feelings towards you and some day you get put out to pasture.

No Free Attention.

 

[plumber]

Find a woman who loves you more than she loves herself. It’s possible. But uncommon. When you find her, hold onto her. Then you can stop dealing with this ****. You’ll know who she is when she starts making decisions that make absolutely no sense for her but work for you. These moments will be evident quickly. Her character will come through and these moments will remain consistent. She will tell you that you’re her favorite person. You’ll be her first phone call on all matters. You’ll eventually hear her tell you that she loves you as much as I am saying here. If that matters to you, it’s possible.

if and when this happens. stay the course and continue to be the man she choose. do not let her adjust you.

 

[Lauel]

This is exactly why women should not be in leadership positions and want to be led in their romantic relationships. They need structure and strength and all crave it. Its why weak, more feminine men struggle in romantic relationships.

Ladies and gentlemen. May I remind you all, all major civilizations were patriarchal in nature. The current one is not, and you already know the direction it is taking each day.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ladies and gentlemen. May I remind you all, all major civilizations were patriarchal in nature. The current one is not, and you already know the direction it is taking each day.

The historical record disagrees with you. I suggest you go back and study history further before making these type of claims which are easily proven false.

 

[intricate design]

I can’t even read the article there’s so many pop ups between there and here

please don’t link anhthing. What a waste of life these forums aim towards

and Is it okay to type English here? Seems like an anti-English forum.

destroy all the whites and you achieve the jihad

 

[Lauel]

The historical record disagrees with you. I suggest you go back and study history further before making these type of claims which are easily proven false.

If you believe so, then kindly share the historical records or please ignore my message.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you believe so, then kindly share the historical records or please ignore my message.

How about you actually do some research yourself since you are the one making the false claims and clearly haven't study history enough to be making those claims.

Hint: there is more than 1.

 

[Divorced w 3]

The historical record disagrees with you. I suggest you go back and study history further before making these type of claims which are easily proven false.

Cleopatra anyone?