MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
article: Bikinis Make Men See Women as Objects
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Boilermaker
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oh yes.. that is it.. bikinis! they finally spotted it.
if it weren't for bikinis; we would NEVER, EVER see women as objects,
such nonsense...
if it weren't for bikinis; we would NEVER, EVER see women as objects,
such nonsense...
wait_out
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I feel let down that that was not an Onion article
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Sexy women being the operative term here.
A chubby girl in a bikini still makes the salami go south.
ermmmm.... I think you're totally missing the point. What's interesting to me is that naked (or mostly naked in this case) women lit up the same part of the brain as "tool use" does.Boilermaker said:
Kind of like I always say that boning a hot woman is like driving a Ferrari at 150mph. Interesting stuff... seems to say that the objectification of women is hard-wired into the male brain.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Boilermaker
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no I didn't miss the point I was pointing out the irrelevance of bikinis in this context.Zarky said:
Bikini has nothing to do with the objectification. On the other hand, if you are to discover the fact that we see women as objects; you really need to get bikinis out of the picture - say, with a control group of naked women.
5string
Master Don Juan
Oh come on. Women only wear bikinis because it's too warm outside to wear regular clothing. What other reason could there be?