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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
article: Bikinis Make Men See Women as Objects
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Boilermaker
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oh yes.. that is it.. bikinis! they finally spotted it.
if it weren't for bikinis; we would NEVER, EVER see women as objects,
such nonsense...
if it weren't for bikinis; we would NEVER, EVER see women as objects,
such nonsense...
wait_out
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I feel let down that that was not an Onion article
Rollo Tomassi
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Sexy women being the operative term here.
A chubby girl in a bikini still makes the salami go south.
ermmmm.... I think you're totally missing the point. What's interesting to me is that naked (or mostly naked in this case) women lit up the same part of the brain as "tool use" does.Boilermaker said:
Kind of like I always say that boning a hot woman is like driving a Ferrari at 150mph. Interesting stuff... seems to say that the objectification of women is hard-wired into the male brain.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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no I didn't miss the point I was pointing out the irrelevance of bikinis in this context.Zarky said:
Bikini has nothing to do with the objectification. On the other hand, if you are to discover the fact that we see women as objects; you really need to get bikinis out of the picture - say, with a control group of naked women.
5string
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Oh come on. Women only wear bikinis because it's too warm outside to wear regular clothing. What other reason could there be?