"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Article and a Question on Escalation!

schttrj

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Ok, very funny that I just read an article by TD on the Attraction Forums where he says in an article called "Playing hard to get", that you should never do cold approaches and only do it when the girls are givings you AIs. Like what he says is to do is just bait them to come to you. Why would they come to you because you are 'cooler' and 'more valuable' than the girl in question. So direct game is out of question when you are gaming hotties! Situational openers are best for their naturalness and spontaneity!

Anyways, now my question is a little off what I said above. I am seeing something, when I am playing a direct game, I am good at escalating but when I am playing the indirect game like in the 'hook-pull' method, I am feeling uneasy while doing the escalation. It is kind of that I am getting stuck in the maze of attraction phase where she keeps on chasing me and I am not taking it to the further level. You get me here, guys? I feel like if I tend to escalate I would fall into her reality. How do you suggest me to go about this?

PS_ I am talking of hotties like 8's, 9's or 10's
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you know this experiance or do you just think it after reading Tyler's article? Big difference.

I think the problems all in your head. Just esculate and see how it goes. If it doesn't work come back here or try something else.
 

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ok, first of all, I have always baited the girl, that was my style but I understand it is actually lessening my chances overall. So, I took to cold approaches and saw that it is really hard to get along with a hottie once you have started a direct game and she is not very responsive to it. Never got any where, guys, but needless to say, I am still trying on!

My previous style: Once the girl gets my attention and I get attention, I just give her a glare in her eyes and turn away or act like nothing is going on. You know when you tell something through your eyes and the next moment, you are acting like nothing is going on or she is just another person, nothing special. This is how I actually got girls.

But I am trying to increase my opportunities through CAs too. Only that I am still skeptical about direct game.

And Tyler said, also that it is not 'cool' in some high end cities or something but it is done in NYC and London. That is how he puts it and also, that he says the naturally alpha guys never cold approach unless they havent got the attention of the ladies. There was I thinking that I used to do like that! LOL.. but then I think it certainly not going to hurt if you take your chance you might want to like or think interesting. Maybe she is waiting for you! If you want to give it a look, check in the Attraction Forums.
 

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that article is pretty old. a lot of reliance on canned material

since TD is natural game now, he probably doesn't follow that model anymore
 

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I just looked at that list of articles

they're all old - from before 2005
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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