"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Article and a Question on Escalation!

schttrj

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Ok, very funny that I just read an article by TD on the Attraction Forums where he says in an article called "Playing hard to get", that you should never do cold approaches and only do it when the girls are givings you AIs. Like what he says is to do is just bait them to come to you. Why would they come to you because you are 'cooler' and 'more valuable' than the girl in question. So direct game is out of question when you are gaming hotties! Situational openers are best for their naturalness and spontaneity!

Anyways, now my question is a little off what I said above. I am seeing something, when I am playing a direct game, I am good at escalating but when I am playing the indirect game like in the 'hook-pull' method, I am feeling uneasy while doing the escalation. It is kind of that I am getting stuck in the maze of attraction phase where she keeps on chasing me and I am not taking it to the further level. You get me here, guys? I feel like if I tend to escalate I would fall into her reality. How do you suggest me to go about this?

PS_ I am talking of hotties like 8's, 9's or 10's
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do you know this experiance or do you just think it after reading Tyler's article? Big difference.

I think the problems all in your head. Just esculate and see how it goes. If it doesn't work come back here or try something else.
 

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ok, first of all, I have always baited the girl, that was my style but I understand it is actually lessening my chances overall. So, I took to cold approaches and saw that it is really hard to get along with a hottie once you have started a direct game and she is not very responsive to it. Never got any where, guys, but needless to say, I am still trying on!

My previous style: Once the girl gets my attention and I get attention, I just give her a glare in her eyes and turn away or act like nothing is going on. You know when you tell something through your eyes and the next moment, you are acting like nothing is going on or she is just another person, nothing special. This is how I actually got girls.

But I am trying to increase my opportunities through CAs too. Only that I am still skeptical about direct game.

And Tyler said, also that it is not 'cool' in some high end cities or something but it is done in NYC and London. That is how he puts it and also, that he says the naturally alpha guys never cold approach unless they havent got the attention of the ladies. There was I thinking that I used to do like that! LOL.. but then I think it certainly not going to hurt if you take your chance you might want to like or think interesting. Maybe she is waiting for you! If you want to give it a look, check in the Attraction Forums.
 

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that article is pretty old. a lot of reliance on canned material

since TD is natural game now, he probably doesn't follow that model anymore
 

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I just looked at that list of articles

they're all old - from before 2005
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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