You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No, I said he shouldn't reach out again to her for a few days. That doesn't mean he shouldn't also fvck around with other ladies. Contacting a lady sooner would not be a good idea according to AMS. He actually says to wait a week or so. Not to create fake value, but to build attraction and focus on other ladies in the meantime.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I couldn't get her to allow me to bring a bottle of wine over, doubtful she'll do anything back at her place now. I just wonder if it's worth even meeting up.
AMS suggests to say the same too. He states to ask her what day she available so it doesn't look like you have nothing to do. So if she can do a Saturday, don't come back with Friday, come back with Sunday, not with then Friday as it shows low value. No high value man would be open both Friday and Saturday of the same week. Only following AMS's book and videos. They've worked well for me and helped land dates.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Search his Patreon. You'll find it.