You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No, I said he shouldn't reach out again to her for a few days. That doesn't mean he shouldn't also fvck around with other ladies. Contacting a lady sooner would not be a good idea according to AMS. He actually says to wait a week or so. Not to create fake value, but to build attraction and focus on other ladies in the meantime.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I couldn't get her to allow me to bring a bottle of wine over, doubtful she'll do anything back at her place now. I just wonder if it's worth even meeting up.
AMS suggests to say the same too. He states to ask her what day she available so it doesn't look like you have nothing to do. So if she can do a Saturday, don't come back with Friday, come back with Sunday, not with then Friday as it shows low value. No high value man would be open both Friday and Saturday of the same week. Only following AMS's book and videos. They've worked well for me and helped land dates.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Search his Patreon. You'll find it.