Arguments.

[Reiki]

Me and my friends sometimes have arguments about stuff (science,school,working out,women)


What bothers me is that they say things like, Im gonna workout for 2 hours and get big, or like ALL women are sluts, or they say that demons are gonna come and end the world ( off some stupid site -_- ).

I try to tell them otherwise, but they never listen, should I just keep my mouth shut when I hear someone else saying something incorrect?

What about people beside my friends, like coworkers or something, I dont wanna come across as someone who always wants to be right...

 

[Life-Trainee]

Just disagree without being disagreeable. Don't impose your beliefs on your peers even if you know you're right. Let them find the truth themselves. Don't take it personally if people don't agree with your point of view, just present it and let go.

 

[GaryNas]

Them: Im gonna workout for 2 hours and get big,
You: So go do it.


Then: ALL women are sluts
You: ?

Them: demons are gonna come and end the world ( off some stupid site -_- ).
You: Because everything on the Internet is true


I gave up arguing a long time ago, especially about stupid points like the demon thing. One guy I knew once thought baseball was too easy because all you had to do was "hit a ball with a stick". Regretably I argued with him (back in my arguing days) and it got me nowhere but a headache.

 

[DJ_Dork]

learn how to communicate. if you feel you should state an opinion to correct what they said is stupid, then go ahead. replying back with aloofness or no opinion is a sign of low confidence.

 

[Reiki]

anyone got any more tips?

 

[Beethoven]

Buy 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. It's a great book, and it tells you how to get people round to your way of thinking without arguing. And it helps you understand the other guy better, so maybe you'll even find out you're wrong yourself!

Although, with friends, some friendly 'heated discussion' can be good, keep the 'discussion' part high and the 'heated' part low.

 

[A.J. Stanson]

Like Beethoven said, always discuss, never argue. There's no need to even get heated. Getting heated implies that you're trying to prove that you're right and they're wrong. Real DJ's have nothing to prove.