She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I like Rich Cooper and I have seen this video before. It is sooo tempting to argue with them. You think that maybe with enough logic they will change their mind. Nope. Hardly ever happens. Ever.
Hi Duke,
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Arguing"* with anyone is rarely effective... Makes more sense to respond to someone who's hostile or passive aggressive the way a skillful comic responds to a heckler: Keep things funny, without yourself becoming agitated
Facts!! Yes 1000%. That one is the hardest not to bite on for me too. It is so untrue that you cant help but want to slap someone for saying it.
It's really easy to refute it. Pay gap is simply the result of comparing the average income of every single man and to the average income of every single women, while not controlling for a single variable (such as the fact that men are more willing to relocate for work or work dangerous jobs). Simply point out that men vary more on the extremes while women are much more homogenous; all the most violent people in human history have been and will always be men too, should we equalize that? Should we equalize men being 10x more likely to commit suicide and be homeless? They literally cannot make a single argument against this, although women seem fundamentally incapable of grasping statistics and generalizations like this, because everything has to be about them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plenty of women too. There's an old adage:
Adam ended up following Eve's lead. And what happened?
He and all his male descendants henceforth had to put in effort, if they yearned to not only see a woman naked, but also enjoy the delights of her body
Hi Zekko,
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.