"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Arg... oneitis...

handle

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I ****ing hate this. I get interested in this one girl, and one night I even start losing sleep over it. That night I decide that I HAVE to get her number/get shot down and get this thing overwith.
Then, for whatever reason, she's never approachable for several days.
And then, the one chance I get, I don't work up the courage to even get the number.

Now I know we're supposed to always go find 10 better chicks or do something else to keep our mind off a chick when we feel that oneitis developping, but I can tell she's into me too. It's way too obvious. That's why I decided to get her number, hang out with, and see what happens so that I can get over it. Is that the wrong thing to do? Should you give up on a girl if you have oneitis for her, even if she's definately liking you too?

Anyway, the jist of what I'm saying is this: do I try one more time for the digits, hang out with her, etc etc, and play it out? Or is that not worth it at this point? I just want the whole thing out of my ****ing head so I can focus on more important stuff.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chillisauce

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Only way i found to get over my oneitis was to cut her off completely for a few months and sleep with as many women as i could. Even if you manage to screw your oneitis its just another type of hell.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Originally posted by handle
I ****ing hate this. I get interested in this one girl, and one night I even start losing sleep over it. That night I decide that I HAVE to get her number/get shot down and get this thing overwith.
Then, for whatever reason, she's never approachable for several days.
And then, the one chance I get, I don't work up the courage to even get the number.

Now I know we're supposed to always go find 10 better chicks or do something else to keep our mind off a chick when we feel that oneitis developping, but I can tell she's into me too. It's way too obvious. That's why I decided to get her number, hang out with, and see what happens so that I can get over it. Is that the wrong thing to do? Should you give up on a girl if you have oneitis for her, even if she's definately liking you too?

Anyway, the jist of what I'm saying is this: do I try one more time for the digits, hang out with her, etc etc, and play it out? Or is that not worth it at this point? I just want the whole thing out of my ****ing head so I can focus on more important stuff.

Nothing is a "for sure thing" with women buddy!!



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Hunterchilla

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if u have one-itis with a girl, and she likes you also, then dont mess it up your lucky.
 
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