"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Are you TOO c&f/stoic/bad boy?

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I'm a big fan of Elliot Hulse who talks a lot about BALANCE.

All of you came here because you were blue pill beta males, and eventually swallowed the red pill and changed your style. Unfortunately, it seems the other extreme can backfire pretty frequently as well.

Assuming you're not a 6'5" millionaire with tattoo sleeves that's going to clean up just by walking in the room, how do you strike that balance between nice guy and badass without coming off as bitter or obnoxious?

I'm not talking about "working on yourself" or "be an interesting guy and watch women come to you." I'm talking about the logistics of your game specifically - day game vs. night game, how you start a conversation, and text game leading up to the first bang.

I saw a thread here that talked about "treat them like sh*t, no exceptions" but am skeptical even in an LTR. In the prequel to the game, this is an absurd way to approach a new girl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Putting on C+F to attract women shows insecurity.

I always act myself around women. If they don't like me for who I am, I'm wasting my time. This whole bad boy thing is a facade for someone who has deep issues. With that kind of persona you will attract the crazy women and ones who were sexually abused when they were 5.

What I am working on is charisma. The most successful men I've ever known had it. They didn't have tattoos or use steroids. They just had an aura of success.
 

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Walk up to 10 different girls and say "Hi u look nice, Can i have your number"

do this for 10 days straight

10 x 10 = 100 girls approached

2 out of 10 will give u a number so 20 numbers in ur pocket/phone

call/msg all 20 about half of these will respond

7 will go on a date 3 will flake

out of the remaining 5 u hopefully get a second date with 3 of them and bang 1 or 2 tops

that is "game" the StarWolf version
 
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Starwolf said:
Walk up to 10 different girls and say "Hi u look nice, Can i have your number"

do this for 10 days straight

10 x 10 = 100 girls approached

2 out of 10 will give u a number so 20 numbers in ur pocket/phone

call/msg all 20 about half of these will respond

7 will go on a date 3 will flake

out of the remaining 5 u hopefully get a second date with 3 of them and bang 1 or 2 tops

that is "game" the StarWolf version
I've always said this. Being "better" will mean that your "hit percentages" will go up, but almost no one will ever be 100% or even 90% for that matter.
 

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I'm sorry but your math error is bothering me. Agree with your reply though.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PipeDope said:
I'm sorry but your math error is bothering me. Agree with your reply though.
:D :up:
 

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Starwolf said:
Walk up to 10 different girls and say "Hi u look nice, Can i have your number"

do this for 10 days straight

10 x 10 = 100 girls approached

2 out of 10 will give u a number so 20 numbers in ur pocket/phone

call/msg all 20 about half of these will respond

7 will go on a date 3 will flake

out of the remaining 5 u hopefully get a second date with 3 of them and bang 1 or 2 tops

that is "game" the StarWolf version
Waste of time. Could spend that time doing something more productive. Try doing social circle game with way less flakes and less energy, ill make a thread about it later.
 

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cola said:
Waste of time. Could spend that time doing something more productive. Try doing social circle game with way less flakes and less energy, ill make a thread about it later.
I keep saying, the social circle is the key to all pūssy.


You must become a resourceful man. A man that everyone likes and respects. A with many friends. The man people say "hmmm, HE might know' A man who many owe you favors. A man with connections. Networking.

Pūssy will fall in your lap, Approaching will be a walk in the fūcking park.

This is easier said then done though. A thread needshow to be made.
 

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Balance is the key to life.

Every action has a reaction.

Make sure you take the good and appreciate the bad with it.

Yin & Yang.

This is what I try to live by and try to apply it to everything in my life.
 
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PipeDope said:
I'm sorry but your math error is bothering me. Agree with your reply though.
I was saying with his system, he could raise his approaches... OR, he could raise his hit rate by raising desireable attributes and skills. I think all of us DJ's want an abundance of qualities not really had by the competition.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DaddyLongShanks said:
I think all of us DJ's want an abundance of qualities not really had by the competition.
Easier said than done.
But they say that if things came easily, they wouldn't be worth having.
 
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