Are you still grateful?

[neobrood]

... to the chick who broke your heart?

I've been reading posts here lately and I found a common denominator on why people came here...

Its because of failure and disappointment in getting the woman they want.

But to think of it, without feeling pain and getting crushed, you would continue to be livin your AFC lives.

 

[SDBmania]

NO!!!!

The first and only girl that ever broke my heart was what caused my AFCness in the first place! I'm still dealing with issues from that event, thankfull though, I'm working out those issues. At least I have come along way and now I have found the mistake that I made. I chose to react in a negitive way back then and now I have to own my decition and get over it.

 

[DJUofS]

Re: NO!!!!

Originally posted by SDBmania
The first and only girl that ever broke my heart was what caused my AFCness in the first place! I'm still dealing with issues from that event, thankfull though, I'm working out those issues. At least I have come along way and now I have found the mistake that I made. I chose to react in a negitive way back then and now I have to own my decition and get over it.

I disagree... the first girl that broke my heart caused me to come looking for the reason why. That reason I found on this site. From the day I found this site to the present, my life has improved drastically.

 

[SDBmania]

Re: Re: NO!!!!

Originally posted by DJUofS
I disagree...

??? Oh, you mean you had a different exsperiance. Well, take in mind that my first and only heart break occured in Jr. High. It was the first girl I had a crush on that I showed my feelings to. So, I was tramatised. That and since I had been a social outcast in elementray school was a death blow. I have fixed my social problems now I'm working on emotional/women issues.

 

[neobrood]

So, I was tramatised. That and since I had been a social outcast in elementray school was a death blow.

SAME HERE!!!

But the thing is... without that "death blow", the phoenix would never have risen from its ashes.

Before, I used to be damn dependent on people. And I always hoped that a SAVIOR would come to deliver me from evil.

College came and then I met her. We became close to each other. She opened up and I opened up. Soon I was thinking that she's the one who is my savior... but no. I was completely wrong. The b!atch just took advantage of my situation and feelings and used me.

I got suicidal and depressed for at least a month. I kept on punching walls... my fists were getting bruised and numb already. I kept on jogging and doing exercise just to shake off the suicidal tendencies in my head.

It was not only the b!tch who was my problem. Over and above the fact that IM A SOCIAL OUTCAST!!! 20 YEARS AND I ACHIEVED NOTHING AT ALL!!! AND THE FACT THAT I HAVE NOBODY TO TURN TO AND TRUST!!! INCLUDING MY PARENTS, RELATIVES, AND "FRIENDS"!!! I CANNOT TRUST THEM!!! ALL THEIR STUPID BS!!!

I didn't know what to do anymore. When the depression was fading off and when I was beginning to think rational again, I asked myself: "How the hell did this average looking girl SEDUCE ME?"

I wondered and searched everywhere for answers till I stumbled on this site and other "seduction" sites and books.

And then, life got better for me. I've been more courageous in approaching women, and talking to people. I got stronger ties with my existing friends and made new ones...

I don't believe in "fate" and "destiny" anymore. For 20 years, that BS was shoved into my head. Now, I believe in the change that you can ACHIEVE THROUGH YOUR OWN EFFORT. You have the power. Use it. Save yourself. You are your savior. You are your messiah... Not anybody else.

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Therefore, I'm grateful to God for putting her in my life. Maybe she was the answer to my prayers. All these years, I've been praying to God to change my life. All he wanted to tell me is that I have to change. It is in my own power.

God is the ultimate psychologist. He prolly knew the way I would react if put into that situation EVEN BETTER than I know myself.

If not for her, I would still be in AFC lala land as of this point.

Nasa Diyos ang awa, nasa Tao ang Gawa
***Lame translation: (In God is mercy, in you is actions)

 

[comic_relief]

I voted no originally but i would like to change my point of view. Upon further consideration I find the person who broke my heart to be my greatest person of my life. She managed to send me into such desparation that I went looking on the internet for ways to win her but then I found this wonderful site. My life has never changed so much for the better because of it. Thank you, Tina. You will probably never read this but thank you anyways.

-Kyle

 

[Dirtheart]

Good question.

After getting betrayed by a girlfriend last year I totally changed my looks and image, which has worked very well for me. After splitting with my last girlfriend, I have totally changed my attitude and dropped my AFC ways. They both gave me the motivation to improve myself and taught me not to be so damn naive.

They were very hard and painful lessons, but now they're behind me, I am very grateful.

 

[alnite]

Same here. I had the intention of becoming a DJ not because of a girl, but because I realized how many opportunities I had missed. But I never took it seriously until I met this girl. I desperately tried to win her heart. I read all things about self-esteem and seduction techniques. But an AFC can't be a DJ within a week. We hung out one day, I became clingy and needy, she ditched me the next day.

But it's her that made me go this far. Thanks to you, Sarah.

Come to think of it, it was her who taught me how to drink hard liquors. What a girl...

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

No girl has ever broken my heart, no girl has ever gotten my heart so hasn't been an issue.

 

[OldNumb3r7]

Yes and no. She helped me see my problems but I hope she slowly goes crazy from untreated syphyllis in the next 30 yrs.

 

[SDBmania]

Originally posted by neobrood
SAME HERE!!!

But the thing is... without that "death blow", the phoenix would never have risen from its ashes.

Before, I used to be damn dependent on people. And I always hoped that a SAVIOR would come to deliver me from evil.

College came and then I met her. We became close to each other. She opened up and I opened up. Soon I was thinking that she's the one who is my savior... but no. I was completely wrong. The b!atch just took advantage of my situation and feelings and used me.

I got suicidal and depressed for at least a month. I kept on punching walls... my fists were getting bruised and numb already. I kept on jogging and doing exercise just to shake off the suicidal tendencies in my head.

It was not only the b!tch who was my problem. Over and above the fact that IM A SOCIAL OUTCAST!!! 20 YEARS AND I ACHIEVED NOTHING AT ALL!!! AND THE FACT THAT I HAVE NOBODY TO TURN TO AND TRUST!!! INCLUDING MY PARENTS, RELATIVES, AND "FRIENDS"!!! I CANNOT TRUST THEM!!! ALL THEIR STUPID BS!!!

I didn't know what to do anymore. When the depression was fading off and when I was beginning to think rational again, I asked myself: "How the hell did this average looking girl SEDUCE ME?"

I wondered and searched everywhere for answers till I stumbled on this site and other "seduction" sites and books.

And then, life got better for me. I've been more courageous in approaching women, and talking to people. I got stronger ties with my existing friends and made new ones...

I don't believe in "fate" and "destiny" anymore. For 20 years, that BS was shoved into my head. Now, I believe in the change that you can ACHIEVE THROUGH YOUR OWN EFFORT. You have the power. Use it. Save yourself. You are your savior. You are your messiah... Not anybody else.

==================

Therefore, I'm grateful to God for putting her in my life. Maybe she was the answer to my prayers. All these years, I've been praying to God to change my life. All he wanted to tell me is that I have to change. It is in my own power.

God is the ultimate psychologist. He prolly knew the way I would react if put into that situation EVEN BETTER than I know myself.

If not for her, I would still be in AFC lala land as of this point.

Nasa Diyos ang awa, nasa Tao ang Gawa
***Lame translation: (In God is mercy, in you is actions)

Good for you is all I had to say, unfortunetly I was too young to realise it was not my fault. Children often blame themselves for things that they can't control. Obivously, I've over that event now and I'm just finishing off repairing the damage that was done. I chose to react the way I did, which was a bad choise, so now that I've owned it I can chose to change.