"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are You Man Enough To Use The Direct Method?

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I did this a long time ago only once, and now that I looked back at it it did work. I was just too much of a bit(h back then though...lol. I've only done situational openers since then. I guess I'll try direct again. :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What an eye opener... I didn't realize that for the past year, that most of the girls I dated or hooked up with, was the result of a direct approach.
 
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While the direct approach is a great way to meet women, the main underlying theme to it is confidence. Confidence is the most crucial part of picking up women. Know what you want, and go and get it. No confidence=no women.
 
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mcpwn said:
...example: people with extreme confidence (dictators, religious leaders..etcc) get what they want and peopel follow them
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Don't they just use force and fear?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Don't they just use force and fear?
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it takes confidence and guts to get up on a stage and say hypocrital things and expect all things to go right
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mcpwn said:
it takes confidence and guts to get up on a stage and say hypocrital things and expect all things to go right
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And just how much confidence or guts does it take when you're preaching to people who feel that they need to be told what to do?
 
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