Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Yeah, that expression annoys the fuck outta me.
AFC: You get lucky?
DJ: She got lucky.
AFC: You get lucky?
DJ: She got lucky.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Understandable, but men's libido will always be a factor. What I'm getting at is how the feminine imperative uses this, and of course the covert/psychological nature of women demands that social contrivances be developed. No woman, regardless of how attractive can overtly say, "I'm going to use my sexuality to make men comply with my wishes, provide for my needs and agree with my thinking." Any woman who'd do so is automatically an overt, grand manipulator who's broken the cardinal rule of the women's fight club - never talk about or directly acknowledge the covert contrivance. Those who do, open themselves up to easy attack in women's sexual competition combat and men who figure the real nature of the contrivance must be marginalized and shamed for even attempting to figure it out.Jitterbug said:Is it Feminine Mystique or is it simply Men's Lust? I mean, all of this mystique or elusiveness is worth sweet bugger all if the woman isn't attractive. An attractive woman can be unpredictable - guys will then say that her mystique is attractive. She can also be totally frank and honest - guys will then say that her innocence is attractive. In either case, guys will think that they'd need to get lucky to be with her.
The weird thing is they will do this with no intention of putting out, like in a work setting. As I said before I'm starting to see just how much guys will act like fools just because a girl is involved, do they really think something is going to happen? And does the girl really intend to actually do something? No,but just being female is enough to get the dude to do anything. Yeah I'm figuring this out late.Rollo Tomassi said:No woman, regardless of how attractive can overtly say, "I'm going to use my sexuality to make men comply with my wishes, provide for my needs and agree with my thinking."
Part of it is the general b.s. of our culture, but part of it is real as well.reset said:Stupid question of the day: Could someone please explain to me where we got this notion that women have more intrinsic worth than men?
Well there goes my prize mentality.Luthor Rex said:From the brutal point of view of Natuer, women are the valuable sex and men are the disposable sex.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Physics tells us that all systems tend toward entropy. While the overall universe we live in may be burning out, that doesn't mean there can't be pockets of low-entropy where life exists.reset said:Well there goes my prize mentality.