"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Are you a reacher or a settler?

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Saw an old episode of How I met Your Mother. Some of you have probably seen it.

They say that in every relationship, there's a reacher and a settler.(self-explanatory) Do you think there's any truth to this?

If so, I think in my current relationship, I'm the settler.(Which is why I'm here in this forum)

I've never felt what it was like to be the reacher in a relationship. Does it feel good? What's it like?

My current GF treats me GREAT! She makes me nice little personal gifts. She does whatever I tell her to do in bed. And she believes whatever I tell her. If I told her the moon was square, she would believe it. Being the settler feels great because your partner treats you like a god!

The downside is, your partner doesn't excite you. You don't look forward to seeing her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Great question; wish I had more time to respond to it before I need to go to work.

Question is: what are you settling for?

If your girl treats you like a god to me that sounds like you reached for (and got) a great personality. If you're not excited to see her sounds like you settled for an average body. It's a trade-off. In my experience, hot girls with great personalities are rare.

I'd favor a cute girl that treats me like a god over a hot b1tch any day.
 
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High Voltage said:
Great question; wish I had more time to respond to it before I need to go to work.

Question is: what are you settling for?

If your girl treats you like a god to me that sounds like you reached for (and got) a great personality. If you're not excited to see her sounds like you settled for an average body. It's a trade-off. In my experience, hot girls with great personalities are rare.

I'd favor a cute girl that treats me like a god over a hot b1tch any day.
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Thanks. I actually go to this forum during work. Hehe...

Yeah, she's kinda' average in the looks department but has the sweetest personality.

And yeah, in my experience also, the hotter the girl, the b!tchier.

I really appreciate what I have, I'm just so curious about what I don't have.
 
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ken chang said:
I really appreciate what I have, I'm just so curious about what I don't have.
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I have this problem all the time. No matter how good I have it, I wonder about what I don't have. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, right? Because I know this is a problem for me, I downplay (but don't ignore) thoughts coming from that direction.

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what if you date between 2-4 women who don't really excite you?
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If nothing about them excites you, then why are you dating them?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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High Voltage said:
I have this problem all the time. No matter how good I have it, I wonder about what I don't have. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, right? Because I know this is a problem for me, I downplay (but don't ignore) thoughts coming from that direction.
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I think it's part of human nature. Or man's nature. There will always be a better woman, right?

I know I really wanted her before I got her, but when I did, she just wasn't that exciting for me anymore.

"The wanting is better than the having" I think Spock said that.

Yes, I know about Spock. I am that old and that nerdy.
 
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ken chang said:
I think it's part of human nature. Or man's nature. There will always be a better woman, right?
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Well, I think we stop seeing or more accurately, stop appreciating the strong points of the one we're with and the flaws are all we see. Then someone new comes along and all we see in the beginning is that they are great in the areas where our long time squeeze has flaws. We only compare their strong points to her weak ones. Given enough time, the new persons flaws will become manifest, but not at first.

my $0.02
 
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Well, I think we stop seeing or more accurately, stop appreciating the strong points of the one we're with and the flaws are all we see. Then someone new comes along and all we see in the beginning is that they are great in the areas where our long time squeeze has flaws. We only compare their strong points to her weak ones. Given enough time, the new persons flaws will become manifest, but not at first.

my $0.02
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This too is part of man's nature. I wonder if it's the same for the women?
 
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