"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are you a player?

alwysfishin85

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The switch has turned on for me a few months back and all thanks to you gents (along with work of my own.). A common occurrence is to be asked, "are you a player" within first 3 times hanging out (close around this time and seeing a correlation. I know what I answered before this change screamed AFC....now I usually respond with "what's a player look like" deflect and change topic. Seeing.from the more experienced gents some other responses that have had results.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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drak_ool

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alwysfishin85 said:
now I usually respond with "what's a player look like" deflect and change topic
That's the "spirit" of any answer to a sh.it test, such as asking you "are you a player." You just want to deflect and simply refuse to answer, no matter how much she insists. Keep it aloof, but remember the goal: don't answer

As far as specific answers:

"takes one to know one"
"why you saying that?" [without denying or affirming in any way]
No matter how she follows up, use that to say "so you have a lot of experience with players..."
"I'm not a player, I just f.uck a lot" said with a grin [if you think the girl has enough musical culture to catch the reference to Big Pun]
 
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