"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are you a player?

alwysfishin85

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The switch has turned on for me a few months back and all thanks to you gents (along with work of my own.). A common occurrence is to be asked, "are you a player" within first 3 times hanging out (close around this time and seeing a correlation. I know what I answered before this change screamed AFC....now I usually respond with "what's a player look like" deflect and change topic. Seeing.from the more experienced gents some other responses that have had results.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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alwysfishin85 said:
now I usually respond with "what's a player look like" deflect and change topic
That's the "spirit" of any answer to a sh.it test, such as asking you "are you a player." You just want to deflect and simply refuse to answer, no matter how much she insists. Keep it aloof, but remember the goal: don't answer

As far as specific answers:

"takes one to know one"
"why you saying that?" [without denying or affirming in any way]
No matter how she follows up, use that to say "so you have a lot of experience with players..."
"I'm not a player, I just f.uck a lot" said with a grin [if you think the girl has enough musical culture to catch the reference to Big Pun]
 
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