"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Are you a leader?
- Thread starter The Gamer
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mikeraw
Don Juan
The way I consider myself a leader is by having options to choose from and by having enough confidence in myself that people emulate me.
For instance... If a group of my friends want to go to a club and I dont want to go, I tell them that I dont like that particular club and am instead going out with others... I'm social enough that they recognize that they will meet girls with meand/or have a good time, so they either change their plans to do what I suggest or I give them the impression that I had such an awesome time with the other group of friends that they learn their lesson and the following time they do what I suggest.
Also, whenever I walk into whatever place, I am so confident that I'm the best at certain things so I guess people follow my lead in the drinks that I order, conversations to engage in, even body language. Dressing nice and staying in shape help out a lot in that.
Unfortunately, no, I do not consider myself a leader.
Various reasons I guess which include (in no particular order):
- never have been comfortable being the center of attention
- slight social anxiety
- lean towards the introverted side of the fence
- am pretty indecisive about many things, leaders need to take a stand (this is a big one)
- not comfortable with confrontation
- have a hard time expressing emotion
- have always preferred working out situations/issues/problems on my own instead of by committee or a support group
- a few other things...
I would say the major reason though is not being comfortable leading unless I am 100% confident and knowledgeable in the topic on which I am attempting to lead.
For example, If I were on a road trip with a bunch of people I wouldn't want to take charge because I have a terrible sense of direction.
I notice a lot of so called leaders just pretend to know, even when they are not 100% sure of something, and sound confident in what they are saying, so people look at them as leaders.
I have a very hard time doing that.
- Step forward when others are hesitating.
- Make a decision when others are indecisive.
- Take charge when others are panicking.
- Boldly go where noone dared.
- Be protective of your crew and instill confidence in them.
- And even when you lead it wrong, you lead it strong!
I started early. At primary school, I used to play army and I was the general leading my class mates into battle against kids from other classes.
I think introversion/extroversion is too simplified when it comes to defining a leader. A leader has a commanding presence in group situations and is a people's person, but also can be a fearless lone wolf if he finds himself in such circumstances.st_99 said:
I don't think that necessarily means it's not a leadership quality. A leader should be able to work out solutions on his own. It's precisely situations where other people fail that they need a leader to direct them out of troubles.st_99 said:
They get some, they lose some. Leaders get women, for sure, but getting a particular woman? Maybe not. Many famous leaders in history failed to get their women, or "got" women that we don't think much of. However, I have no doubt that women were far from the top of their priorities.The Gamer said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.