Are women's cruel standards reciprocal revenge for men's cruel standards for Beauty?

[SpartanWarrior77]

I wonder if on some level, women judge men on their height, social status, income etc. in a kind of cruel manner because on some level, it's a type of revenge for us judging them cruelly based on looks + other purely biological fertility markers. Each woman probably goes through a traumatic phase/awakening early on in life, probably during childhood where it dawns on them the difference in terms of treatment that beautiful women get compared to uglier women, and how cruel that must be for their fellow sisters who they get along with, who they love. So it's kind of a reciprocal cruelty.

There are even interesting studies that show individuals who are the most aggressive are also the most sensitive. So in theory, the women that were traumatized the most by external cruel treatment, developed very harsh standards as a kind of reciprocal revenge almost. Of course all this happens subconsciously. We are biological creatures and we respond in all kinds of ways to trauma to the organism.

The underlying premise of what I'm trying to say is that, and this is getting a bit philosophical but deep down she is a little girl that just wants to be loved and who has a big reservoir of love, that's her first layer you could say. But then layered on top is her cruel shell/defense mechanisms which manifest as ruthless standards for men because she realizes the ruthless standards that we have for women.

Obviously, they have different evolutionary pressures and so on blah blah blah.

If you could see things from this perspective, one of the things I could see it doing for you is helping you snap out of hatred for women, we all have it sometimes, sometimes I feel like women are these dark creatures with malevolent intent and for sure there are some. However, you take it a lot less personally once you realize that underneath all that, there is someone vulnerable, wanting love, but ultimately they developed these mechanisms.

It's hard to kind of describe what I'm saying/articulate but there is a legitimate change in how you treat women once you realize this kind of stuff.

And of course I'm not saying it's our fault, I guess I'm trying to create space for a kind of red Pill compassion...

 

[plumber]

that's a little confusing... are you telling that women are not evil; yes they are not evil.

both men and women are doing things to get what they want. the idea is getting what we want will make us happy. we all want to be happy.

admitting and accepting what we want is difficult when it conflicts with approval.

i don't think women punish men by having higher standards. others usually don't care what others feel. they just focus on what they want. the women want those higher standards. just as men want better (whatever better means).

they want the hot men... we want the hot women.

you don't want to punish the ugly woman, you just want them out of the way.... its the same for what she wants.

manipulation is alive and well and used all to often by both men and women. its what makes us human.....

when you tell that they just want love, your right. love from a "hot" man.

your right, don't hate women or men, but do understand.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

that's a little confusing... are you telling that women are not evil; yes they are not evil.

both men and women are doing things to get what they want. the idea is getting what we want will make us happy. we all want to be happy.

admitting and accepting what we want is difficult when it conflicts with approval.

i don't think women punish men by having higher standards. others usually don't care what others feel. they just focus on what they want. the women want those higher standards. just as men want better (whatever better means).

they want the hot men... we want the hot women.

you don't want to punish the ugly woman, you just want them out of the way.... its the same for what she wants.

manipulation is alive and well and used all to often by both men and women. its what makes us human.....

when you tell that they just want love, your right. love from a "hot" man.

your right, don't hate women or men, but do understand.

Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I don't know it was a spur of the moment post that I read out loud/dictated, maybe I wasn't really saying anything interesting/NEW but I guess getting a deeper understanding of the underlying dynamics on some level.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nature isn't cruel. It's just nature.

 

[The Duke]

I think most guys hatred for women is because they can't get what they want. And most of that has to do with lack of effort, too high of standards, lack of awareness, lacking social skills, etc.

I'm perfectly fine with women wanting what they want, because I can tell you I am not lowering my standards for what I expect in a woman.

 

[BaronOfHair]

The Deities are perhaps cruel, for designing our species in the manner they did. Spending more than 3 minutes a week groaning over the unfairness of such things is LESS productive than lamenting the impossibility of being unable to jump into The Pacific Ocean with a freshly severed arm, WITHOUT being promptly devourd by a famished pack of Mako sharks

 

[Identikit_Radiohead]

Beauty standards for the sexes Its different though, like comparing apples to oranges.

'Ugly women' are mostly judged on things they can change, like being fat (just diet & exercise), cropping their hair short and dyeing it blue (grow it long, keep it a natural color), tattoos (don't need to), tanning too much and applying too much cosmetics will be ageing the skin (get less sun/wear less makeup + better diet), wearing big stupid glasses (get contacts) looking butch and acting masculine (etiquette traits that can be changed). Those can all be changed with effort.

And, while yes, there's lots of women with ugly/unfortunate faces - they can at least work on their bodies and personality. They'll always be a man for them; tons of men have 0 or low standards. And in an appallingly fat country like America or the UK, a skinny/slim woman with an ugly face will be considered a catch by many men.

A man who is short, bad face, weak jawline, balding, small frame (skeletal mass) is going to suffer immensely and there's not much he can do besides bodybuild and hair transplant + going under the knife for his jaw surgery + betabuxxing. He'll also have to struggle with probably decades of psychological torture through appearance-rejection as all his better looking peers get ahead. He won't be getting laid in High School or in is 20's.

 

[quodlibet]

No one's cruel on purpose. It's just their nature. Nobody's out for revenge.

Just as, you're not cruel for your beauty standards. You're just doing what you're programmed to do.