"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Are women's cruel standards reciprocal revenge for men's cruel standards for Beauty?

SpartanWarrior77

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I wonder if on some level, women judge men on their height, social status, income etc. in a kind of cruel manner because on some level, it's a type of revenge for us judging them cruelly based on looks + other purely biological fertility markers. Each woman probably goes through a traumatic phase/awakening early on in life, probably during childhood where it dawns on them the difference in terms of treatment that beautiful women get compared to uglier women, and how cruel that must be for their fellow sisters who they get along with, who they love. So it's kind of a reciprocal cruelty.

There are even interesting studies that show individuals who are the most aggressive are also the most sensitive. So in theory, the women that were traumatized the most by external cruel treatment, developed very harsh standards as a kind of reciprocal revenge almost. Of course all this happens subconsciously. We are biological creatures and we respond in all kinds of ways to trauma to the organism.

The underlying premise of what I'm trying to say is that, and this is getting a bit philosophical but deep down she is a little girl that just wants to be loved and who has a big reservoir of love, that's her first layer you could say. But then layered on top is her cruel shell/defense mechanisms which manifest as ruthless standards for men because she realizes the ruthless standards that we have for women.

Obviously, they have different evolutionary pressures and so on blah blah blah.

If you could see things from this perspective, one of the things I could see it doing for you is helping you snap out of hatred for women, we all have it sometimes, sometimes I feel like women are these dark creatures with malevolent intent and for sure there are some. However, you take it a lot less personally once you realize that underneath all that, there is someone vulnerable, wanting love, but ultimately they developed these mechanisms.

It's hard to kind of describe what I'm saying/articulate but there is a legitimate change in how you treat women once you realize this kind of stuff.

And of course I'm not saying it's our fault, I guess I'm trying to create space for a kind of red Pill compassion...
 
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that's a little confusing... are you telling that women are not evil; yes they are not evil.

both men and women are doing things to get what they want. the idea is getting what we want will make us happy. we all want to be happy.

admitting and accepting what we want is difficult when it conflicts with approval.

i don't think women punish men by having higher standards. others usually don't care what others feel. they just focus on what they want. the women want those higher standards. just as men want better (whatever better means).

they want the hot men... we want the hot women.

you don't want to punish the ugly woman, you just want them out of the way.... its the same for what she wants.

manipulation is alive and well and used all to often by both men and women. its what makes us human.....

when you tell that they just want love, your right. love from a "hot" man.

your right, don't hate women or men, but do understand.
 

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that's a little confusing... are you telling that women are not evil; yes they are not evil.

both men and women are doing things to get what they want. the idea is getting what we want will make us happy. we all want to be happy.

admitting and accepting what we want is difficult when it conflicts with approval.

i don't think women punish men by having higher standards. others usually don't care what others feel. they just focus on what they want. the women want those higher standards. just as men want better (whatever better means).

they want the hot men... we want the hot women.

you don't want to punish the ugly woman, you just want them out of the way.... its the same for what she wants.

manipulation is alive and well and used all to often by both men and women. its what makes us human.....

when you tell that they just want love, your right. love from a "hot" man.

your right, don't hate women or men, but do understand.
Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I don't know it was a spur of the moment post that I read out loud/dictated, maybe I wasn't really saying anything interesting/NEW but I guess getting a deeper understanding of the underlying dynamics on some level.
 

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I think most guys hatred for women is because they can't get what they want. And most of that has to do with lack of effort, too high of standards, lack of awareness, lacking social skills, etc.

I'm perfectly fine with women wanting what they want, because I can tell you I am not lowering my standards for what I expect in a woman.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The Deities are perhaps cruel, for designing our species in the manner they did. Spending more than 3 minutes a week groaning over the unfairness of such things is LESS productive than lamenting the impossibility of being unable to jump into The Pacific Ocean with a freshly severed arm, WITHOUT being promptly devourd by a famished pack of Mako sharks
 
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