"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Are women great motivators?

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After spending some time at the bars with a hot chinese woman I met at the bar and failed to sleep with. I decided that I drinking and gambling are counter productive to my life goals. Life goals that will hopefully get me more girls. I put up my swimsuit calandar last night and when I woke up I remembered I had to do 100 push ups today. I did them.

Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SharinganUser said:
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Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
:crackup: You used 'women' and 'reasonable' in the same sentence. :crackup:
 

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They definitely can be. Whether you like it or not, or think it's being a slave to the "***** on the pedestal" or whatever, most of what we do is motivated by a desire to be attractive to the opposite sex.
 

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Master Bates said:
They definitely can be. Whether you like it or not, or think it's being a slave to the "***** on the pedestal" or whatever, most of what we do is motivated by a desire to be attractive to the opposite sex.
Sad but true. The correct way should be most of what you do is motivated by a desire to be happy. There should only be a few things you do to be attractive to the opposite sex. The main thing you should do is being confident enough to go after them. There's a lot of stuff I do that, if anything, could hurt my chances with women. For instance, there are some nights I deem better spent observing the night sky, versus trying to pick up women in some club. But I don't gaze at the heavens to get women. I do it because I like it.
 

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Definatly. It's a good thing. You can get healthy, fit, stylish, and climb the social ladder, all because of women as motivators.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Definatly. It's a good thing. You can get healthy, fit, stylish, and climb the social ladder, all because of women as motivators.
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
Just as important, what happens to those who finally do get the women? Beware of complacency.
 

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SharinganUser said:
After spending some time at the bars with a hot chinese woman I met at the bar and failed to sleep with. I decided that I drinking and gambling are counter productive to my life goals. Life goals that will hopefully get me more girls. I put up my swimsuit calandar last night and when I woke up I remembered I had to do 100 push ups today. I did them.

Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
The way I am now, I would never let my motivation come from women. My internal happiness, that comes from me. Much more stable that way.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
They fail. They are doing it for women. I recognize that at my core I am doing this for myself.

I am not doing it to filled women's needs. I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
 

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Yes, they are great motivators. Pook says that behind every great man (Washington, Napoleon, etc.) was a great woman -- But it wasn't the woman he married; it was some b1tch who rejected him early on in life and inspired him to greatness.

In answer to the controversy Francisco has mentioned: You usually start out becoming manly in order to get women. Eventually, however, you realize that manliness is about more than sex, and you come to enjoy greatness for its own sake.

imo, if you've worked out, improved your social skillz, climbed the ladders of status, and gotten yourself financially set, you WILL get women. If you still don't get "the action you want," then you probably have a twisted mindset that overvalues meaningless sex. Being a DJ isn't about getting constant ONSs, it's about finding true love and happiness.

If you just want to worship sex (and strive to generate attraction by becoming fake), visit fastseduction.com and take up PUA skillz.

or I guess you could maybe try to do a little of both paths
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SharinganUser said:
They fail. They are doing it for women.

I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
Playing tricks with semantics to feel good about yourself?

Do you think guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts!??! Pah. "For" is the wrong preposition. Guys are doing it to get women - to fill their (the guys') needs.

All you did was restate what they're doing in different words.
 

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They fail. They are doing it for women. I recognize that at my core I am doing this for myself.

I am not doing it to filled women's needs. I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
Exactly.
 

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Using women as motivating factor in your life is pure folly in my opinion. I have been there, and the focus is on them and not you. Your goals, your desires, your dreams, your ideas, and your whatever should be your motivation.

Are you living for women? I will let you in on something....Most, if not all of them aren't living for you.

Place your focus in the right direction. Of course this changes if you have a family, but ultimately, it is your life you are living for while you are single.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Playing tricks with semantics to feel good about yourself?

Do you think guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts!??! Pah. "For" is the wrong preposition. Guys are doing it to get women - to fill their (the guys') needs.

All you did was restate what they're doing in different words.


Oh, no no no. Unlike those other guys, I do not delude myself with the afc, nice guy belief system. I do not believe that guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts.

What I DO believe is that those other guys have deluded themselves into thinking that THEY are doing this stuff FOR women, out of the goodness of their hearts.

Do you see the difference?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Someone Much cooler said:
money is a better motivator. When you have your $$$ right the girls will always seem to be around
Yeah! Fvcking moochers! Wanting to get with a guy for his money! :cuss:
 
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