Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Are women great motivators?

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After spending some time at the bars with a hot chinese woman I met at the bar and failed to sleep with. I decided that I drinking and gambling are counter productive to my life goals. Life goals that will hopefully get me more girls. I put up my swimsuit calandar last night and when I woke up I remembered I had to do 100 push ups today. I did them.

Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SharinganUser said:
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Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
:crackup: You used 'women' and 'reasonable' in the same sentence. :crackup:
 

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They definitely can be. Whether you like it or not, or think it's being a slave to the "***** on the pedestal" or whatever, most of what we do is motivated by a desire to be attractive to the opposite sex.
 

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Master Bates said:
They definitely can be. Whether you like it or not, or think it's being a slave to the "***** on the pedestal" or whatever, most of what we do is motivated by a desire to be attractive to the opposite sex.
Sad but true. The correct way should be most of what you do is motivated by a desire to be happy. There should only be a few things you do to be attractive to the opposite sex. The main thing you should do is being confident enough to go after them. There's a lot of stuff I do that, if anything, could hurt my chances with women. For instance, there are some nights I deem better spent observing the night sky, versus trying to pick up women in some club. But I don't gaze at the heavens to get women. I do it because I like it.
 

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Definatly. It's a good thing. You can get healthy, fit, stylish, and climb the social ladder, all because of women as motivators.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Themanthatcan said:
Definatly. It's a good thing. You can get healthy, fit, stylish, and climb the social ladder, all because of women as motivators.
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
Just as important, what happens to those who finally do get the women? Beware of complacency.
 

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SharinganUser said:
After spending some time at the bars with a hot chinese woman I met at the bar and failed to sleep with. I decided that I drinking and gambling are counter productive to my life goals. Life goals that will hopefully get me more girls. I put up my swimsuit calandar last night and when I woke up I remembered I had to do 100 push ups today. I did them.

Do you think women are a reasonable motivator?
The way I am now, I would never let my motivation come from women. My internal happiness, that comes from me. Much more stable that way.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So what happens to the guys (some of which are on this site) who have done these thing for the sake of women yet still aren't getting the action that they'd like?
They fail. They are doing it for women. I recognize that at my core I am doing this for myself.

I am not doing it to filled women's needs. I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
 

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Yes, they are great motivators. Pook says that behind every great man (Washington, Napoleon, etc.) was a great woman -- But it wasn't the woman he married; it was some b1tch who rejected him early on in life and inspired him to greatness.

In answer to the controversy Francisco has mentioned: You usually start out becoming manly in order to get women. Eventually, however, you realize that manliness is about more than sex, and you come to enjoy greatness for its own sake.

imo, if you've worked out, improved your social skillz, climbed the ladders of status, and gotten yourself financially set, you WILL get women. If you still don't get "the action you want," then you probably have a twisted mindset that overvalues meaningless sex. Being a DJ isn't about getting constant ONSs, it's about finding true love and happiness.

If you just want to worship sex (and strive to generate attraction by becoming fake), visit fastseduction.com and take up PUA skillz.

or I guess you could maybe try to do a little of both paths
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SharinganUser said:
They fail. They are doing it for women.

I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
Playing tricks with semantics to feel good about yourself?

Do you think guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts!??! Pah. "For" is the wrong preposition. Guys are doing it to get women - to fill their (the guys') needs.

All you did was restate what they're doing in different words.
 

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They fail. They are doing it for women. I recognize that at my core I am doing this for myself.

I am not doing it to filled women's needs. I am doing it to get women to fill my needs.
Exactly.
 

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Using women as motivating factor in your life is pure folly in my opinion. I have been there, and the focus is on them and not you. Your goals, your desires, your dreams, your ideas, and your whatever should be your motivation.

Are you living for women? I will let you in on something....Most, if not all of them aren't living for you.

Place your focus in the right direction. Of course this changes if you have a family, but ultimately, it is your life you are living for while you are single.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Playing tricks with semantics to feel good about yourself?

Do you think guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts!??! Pah. "For" is the wrong preposition. Guys are doing it to get women - to fill their (the guys') needs.

All you did was restate what they're doing in different words.


Oh, no no no. Unlike those other guys, I do not delude myself with the afc, nice guy belief system. I do not believe that guys do this stuff literally FOR women? Out of the goodness of their hearts.

What I DO believe is that those other guys have deluded themselves into thinking that THEY are doing this stuff FOR women, out of the goodness of their hearts.

Do you see the difference?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Someone Much cooler said:
money is a better motivator. When you have your $$$ right the girls will always seem to be around
Yeah! Fvcking moochers! Wanting to get with a guy for his money! :cuss:
 
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