"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I saw this girl i knew back in the day (2-3 years ago) a couple of weeks ago. We hooked up and chilled out by getting some ice cream. We then went over to her house to watch a movie, but then i started some serious kino by feeling her lap and inside of her thighs. Then i started to play with her hair which lead to smelling her shoulders and then started kissing her neck. Which she then said:

Her:"what do you think your doing?"
Me: what? I know you want it.
Her: (she just smiled)
Me: (and i continued)

Her parent came home 2 mins later, so I stopped. We finished the movie and then i left.

A couple of days later, we're back at her place. We started drinking, and stupid me i get pretty wasted and I'm all over her a by sitting really close to her and touching her sides. And then she grabs my hand and pushes it away. But being drunk i continue a couple more times and again she pushes me away. What's up with her? Was it becauase i was mashed?

She calls me a week later. We chit chat for 5 mins and then i let her know i have to go. I then call her the next week and she thought i was gonna ask her to go out and chill, but i didn't i just wanted to say wassup.

Am I falling into the friends catagory? What should i do next?

One last thing, she said "i can't, you're like a friend, ok well, maybe not." What is this suppose to mean?


Peace
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I guess you're not in the friend zone yet, ya still got wiggle room.

I dunno, if you're bothered about her then pull out you're best DJ moves and hit that ****.

If you're not bothered, find someone else.
 
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Seems like you're in the neutral zone, try asking her out on a real date and busting some moves on her to see what happens.
 
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arrrrrr, why did you have go and get waisted?????? It means your on a crossroad. you've only seen her handfull of times, and she doesn't not yat consider you a friend; more like an aqueintance......
 
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Originally posted by Hunchback
I guess you're not in the friend zone yet, ya still got wiggle room.

I dunno, if you're bothered about her then pull out you're best DJ moves and hit that ****.

If you're not bothered, find someone else.
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What kinda DJ moves are you talking about? What do you guys suggest i do? I've been out to eat with her a couple of times, should i just continue with that? If so, what should i do after?



"Seems like you're in the neutral zone, try asking her out on a real date and busting some moves on her to see what happens."

What do you mean by busting moves? Are yout talking about teasing her? I teased her about the way she drives, i said a couple of times "give me the keys, i'll drive"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by spider_007
arrrrrr, why did you have go and get waisted?????? It means your on a crossroad. you've only seen her handfull of times, and she doesn't not yat consider you a friend; more like an aqueintance......
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Don't ask me why i got wasted. I know, it was really stupid.

I left my sunglasses at her place and its been there for at least a month and a half.

And the last time i called to tell her to meet up for a movie, she said, "call me tuesday" And i replied with a "no, forget it, your just gonna waste my time, bye" and then i hanged up. She hasn't called back and i haven't spoken to her since.

What should i say/do when i call her? Should i set something to get some dinner?
 
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