"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Are Things Moving Too Fast??

soulforge

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Going to keep this short as possible..

I am 39 years old... she is 46 years old.

Been dating 5 months now, we seem to get on fine!

Was a little rocky the first month, but now things seem good. The sex is good, we have things in common, and we don't really argue!!

We have talked about living together at some point, or moving to another country.. from the u.k to florida!!

Its only been discussed in a jokey fashion, not very seriously..

Also she wants yo meet my family, and she has invited me to meet hers!!

My question.. do we both need to slow down? Or just go with the flow??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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I mean it depends what you want...she obviously is trying to rope you in, so if that's what you want then I guess that's your call.

IMHO, at your age I would be dating down several years(ie, 32,33). I wouldn't want to be banging some wrinkly @ss, loose pvssy when I'm 45 when you could have some mid 30's instead of some mid 50's pvssy...
 

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I mean it depends what you want...she obviously is trying to rope you in, so if that's what you want then I guess that's your call.

IMHO, at your age I would be dating down several years(ie, 32,33). I wouldn't want to be banging some wrinkly @ss, loose pvssy when I'm 45 when you could have some mid 30's instead of some mid 50's pvssy...
Agree with Marmel that it depends what you want...

But about the age thing....in principle I agree but to look at another point of view....how long do relationships last? My longest was five years. So i kind of think the majority of relationships have a shelf life....so does it matter thinking if five years time or in ten years time she will be....possibly wrinkly! It probably won't last that far...probably.

That been said...46 on paper seems ancient, but... I recently had an "experience" lets say, with a chick of 45 years of age. Now, you would never think she was 45.....I made a comment about her body....now this wasn't to kiss her ass it was to turn the conversation to the physical...I said "you're in good shape. you obviously look after yourself" she replied 'nah it's genetics man...I don't do anything!!!!" she was in tremendous condition....

On a side note: talking about the future......I try not to on a serious level. However I find it a good tactic to future project yourself with her if you want her to invest more and think of the two of you together. As long as it's a tactical move...for example "we could live in greece, you could sell icecreams on the beach and I could run the beachside bar"

To answer your question should you slow it down: I would a little bit....you want a minimum of six months before all that meeting the family ****e. a minimum. Slow it down for the sake of slowing it down, keeping your own frame and keeping a healthy perspective...

Take it easy baby...
 
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