"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are they trying to qualify or shyt test?

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As some of you know , i own a couple of business . One of them is a pub and usually when a plate shows mixed signals in the first stages of our interaction, i take them there mostly late at night to come into a conclusion of their interest . You know Alkohol can be a friend of yours in those situations and it helps you to close the deal with the girl and that's why i bring them there.

I have noticed many times (at least 20) that many of them go inside the bar and do stuff like cleaning , putting in or taking the glasses out of the wash machine and many other things without me telling them to do it or even asking me . They just do it.
I noticed that immediately but most of the times i didn't knew how to react , like telling them not to do it or saying absolutely nothing or giving them more work to do.
Mostly i say to them they don't have to do it but i think that's a mistake.

What do you think it means and how should i normally react? Is this a way to show their value to me or a shyt test to see what kind of person I am?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would see it as nervous behavior because they are either uncertain of your intent, or because they want to avoid being in a situation where you are too close to them(ie, lack of sexual interest) and know your intent. Could also be seen as they are uncomfortable around you and are doing it to keep a distance from you.

I'm assuming you are taking them there when its just you and her and the bar is already closed for the night?
 

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If you took me to your bar (as a male friend) and we were hanging out around close/after hours, and you were giving me drinks, I might help you clean up a bit. Maybe because I feel like it's the right thing to do, or maybe because I want to leave sooner than later.

I mostly agree with marmel. Seems like either they're doing it just to do it like I would, or that they're nervous.
 

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I see this as a big win. Women have come over to my place in the past and started doing dishes and other domestic chores. Those women always had the highest levels of interest. It signifies that these girls are feeling caring and nurturing towards you out of high interest.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would see it as nervous behavior because they are either uncertain of your intent, or because they want to avoid being in a situation where you are too close to them(ie, lack of sexual interest) and know your intent. Could also be seen as they are uncomfortable around you and are doing it to keep a distance from you.

I'm assuming you are taking them there when its just you and her and the bar is already closed for the night?
Yes .
There are many variations. Sometimes i bring them there soon after we meet or when we are coming from some other place. Some other times they come earlier on their own and i don't interact with them till everybody has gone and I'm all alone with them . They never came or stayed against their own will. But always when the place is closed.

Half of the time , I'm inside the bar and they proceed to come closer. The other half they do the opposite.
 
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