Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Are these shirts gay?

nmartinez12443

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actually I am a gemini my b-day is tommorrow june 18th.

I am just tired of the jeans/button up shirt look, its so played out. Now I am not going for a "HEY LOOK AT ME" LOOK, but I personally think these shirts are awesome and I am getting 3 of them, the peacock one probably not. However, I will say this when I go out to bars I am most successful with a standard jeans and button up look with a little blang on my arm as opposed to a funky t-shirt look, these shirts i will probably wear during the day. Since it is so hot (austin TX)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Instead of calling themselves, "Design By Humans", they should change their name to "Designed By Homos!"

Does that answer your question? :rolleyes:
 

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yes, they are gay. They are supposed to be gay and get a reaction.

To be honest, I would totally wear the second shirt to a club and show up with 3 hot girls for no other reason than to piss off the rest of the "normal" guys. But...I wouldn't wear it out anywhere during the day because it may attract too much negative attention.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have another top that is white with baby blue stripes. In the past I could not *pull it off* - now I can easily. I even tested how much craziness I could *pull off.*
Is a shirt and a "top" the same thing or only when dealing with more of a girly shirt(top)?
 

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3rd shirt is pretty cool, got one similar to that. 1st shirt is a bit to 'ravy', 2nd is just plain ugly and you need to be a certain type of guy to pull off the 4th (ie big and buff)
And $25 for a t-shirt? That's a pretty standard price, you damn Americans with your cheap clothing. I have to pay £15 minimum for t-shirts or polo shirts from the local high street fashion stores or for last season's stuff in TK Maxx.
 

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TheFlyOne said:
Is a shirt and a "top" the same thing or only when dealing with more of a girly shirt(top)?
"Top" is a generic term that could mean t-shirt, turtle-neck, sweater, anything - anything BUT pants/skirts, etc I didn't want to say 'shirt' because many guys would assume shirt means 'T-Shirt.' "Top" is a word that is used by the more fashion conscious and by all the girls.


DuffDog said:
yes, they are gay. They are supposed to be gay and get a reaction.

To be honest, I would totally wear the second shirt to a club and show up with 3 hot girls for no other reason than to piss off the rest of the "normal" guys. But...I wouldn't wear it out anywhere during the day because it may attract too much negative attention.
I'm sure you don't wear clothes just to *get a reaction.* You have to truly like what you are wearing - otherwise everyone will see that you are fake and are just trying to get a reaction. That's why I am against the *spirit* of peacocking - it is just attention whoring, guy-style. And I agree - there is a time and place for wearing those shirts - context is everything.

Wear what YOU like - consequences be damned. Of course that takes balls if your style is a bit unconventional - but balls are everything.
 

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VASSUUUPP!!! IM BRUNO!!!

:crackup:

I can't wait to see Bruno.

I like the Death shirt... but maybe they were designed for AWs?? LOL If I saw them on a guy, I think my second thought would be that he 'needs' attention. The first thought would be that he's 'gay'. Sorry.

edit to add: Happy Belated Birthday, nmartinez12443!
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why worry about what anyone thinks about what you wear? Really, my girlfriends and more to the point my moms buy me clothes all the time and I wear that sh*t like a badge. If you personally want to buy something just do it. Always remember its the man that makes the clothes and not the other way around. I buy stuff that I think looks good on me and I give a f*ck about what anybody else thinks about my styling. I do a good job and I wear what suits me.

If you don't think you're a rockstar, nobody else will. Act like you're somebody and people will look at you as such.
 

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PRMoon said:
Why worry about what anyone thinks about what you wear? Really, my girlfriends and more to the point my moms buy me clothes all the time and I wear that sh*t like a badge. If you personally want to buy something just do it. Always remember its the man that makes the clothes and not the other way around. I buy stuff that I think looks good on me and I give a f*ck about what anybody else thinks about my styling. I do a good job and I wear what suits me.

Great post. The more I think about it, the more I realize that a real man is simply the complete opposite of a girl.

The girl worries about: 'Do I look fat in these clothes?'

The man just wears what he wants to wear.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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