Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Those are the girls I like.Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
whomever said those girls are fat must be smoking something....if they're fat, then you must like girls that look like holocaust survivors.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Okay the one on the left isn't all that hefty. But the one on the right (titani-tits) would definately give my back some issues if I were to try to lift her. That's hefty enough for me. How do you confuse fat (breat is mostly fat as pointed out) with muscle?Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
hey i'm a girl and even i wouldn't want to bone a boney chick.
and no, those girls are NOT on the hefty side. Since when is muscular hefty?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is she you by any chance? U seem to be getting kinda defencive hereOriginally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
Well she isn't pretty but she isn't fat.
You guys are helpless.
Why is that? I mean our society conditions us (women and men) to be very superficial about what we find attractive. Look at the light that supermodels are put in. Countless magazines, Television, Movies, Advertizing just about every form of media depicts thin women as the ideal woman.Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
haha no way in hell that is me. I'm just stunned at what guys think is fat these days. Personally, i dont think she's fat. but whatever.
Her boobs look unnatural because she is wearing a ****ty bra. My boobs are that size...and they are 100% natural. I'm "thick"...hourglass figure with massive mammaries and wide curvy hips and a waist that is sorta small compared to the rest of me. Boobs that size can be natural on a non-fat girl as long as her ass/hips are curvy enough to off-set the top-heavyness. It's all about balance...Originally posted by MetalFortress
Fat? pfft stupid
Her breasts are unnatural as hell though. I'd go for the chick on the left, but not the one on the right. Fake boobs suck.
Well, the guys who think any female whose physique doesn't resemble a 12 year old boy is fat have issues. Anorexic looking girls/women look like pre-pubescent boys...no boobs, no curves, just a walking board. They should just save their time and money and go find a tree with a knot hole in it.Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
haha no way in hell that is me. I'm just stunned at what guys think is fat these days. Personally, i dont think she's fat. but whatever.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.