"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
are these questions too direct?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It would seem like you are qualifying yourself or that you are seeking their approval. No good. Stay clear of those questions, except maybe the "what excites you in a man?" That is usable in the right situation.Originally posted by napoleon
If you ask girl questions like-
What is my hottest feature.
What excites you in a man.
Where do you usually go out with men.
Are they too direct?
satyriasis
Don Juan
Originally posted by \O/
It would seem like you are qualifying yourself or that you are seeking their approval. No good. Stay clear of those questions, except maybe the "what excites you in a man?" That is usable in the right situation.
Why do you think these questions are me trying to qualify myself.
I wouldn't ask Do you find me hot, which is qualifying, I'd ask whats hottest about be-saying I know you think I'm hot but what do you like the most.
Any opinions?
satyriasis
Don Juan
where do you usually go out with men? - this is saying... i dont know the meaning of a fun time, where to go, or what to do, so you pick somewhere we can go and we'll go.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What should I talk about the weater or what she did that day, cause everything I say and ask can be translated into insecurity and neediness. For instance even if I ask, better yet tell her- Lets fu.ck, it can be translated- he's insecure, he wants to find out if she wants to fak, he should assume she does, not talk about it.
Anybody other, opinions?
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