"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are there any Women DJs here too?

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AJ84

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I enjoy reading the site, gaining some insight, offering some insight when I can, like most people who visit forums.

I personally read a lot of good posts and great advice from many of the guys in is forum, in particular around not being a sucker, self improvement, having realistic expectations, etc. Some of what I read here I think is useful for my own relationship with my husband. It's also interesting to get the perspective of men out in the dating pool, because I already know how women feel about dating and relationships. I see many parallels.

Sometimes I will read a post where I feel like a women's perspective would be helpful. I know, before I even post a reply, that there is a chance that someone will throw out an insult or make a dig about a woman posting, but I will post anyway and take it from there.

If someone doesn't want to read my posts because I don't have a penis that's cool. If someone doesn't agree and we get into a debate, well, that's part of the premise behind forums, people posting different views. Some people throw personal insults if they are not capable of debating in a mature way or are too sensitive to disagreements. For me, I try not to take it personally, because at the end of the day, it's a forum comprised of anonymous people a million times removed from each other's personal lives, and getting upset over it is an emotional investment that is best spent on people in one's personal life, not an anonymous forum.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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