"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are the differences between a female 5/10 & 6/10 subtle to you, or quite large jump in attractiveness?

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5-average.
6-above (or slightly above) average.

Probably like the difference between lifting X weight on the bench, and an added 2.5lb plate on each side.

You may not notice a huge difference, but you will notice a slight one.
yeah but what does slightly above average actually look like ?
Post a pic of a 5 and a 6 and demonstrate pls.

I notice also.. except for the OP pic of 3 high school chicks .. OP can’t demonstrate a 5 vs 6 vs 7 vs 8 etc

so if that’s not possible .., what use is the f*cking scale ?! lol :rolleyes:

Plus if a chick is fat and ugly (sub5) .
Who cares exactly how ugly and exactly how fat she is..? A 4 vs 3 vs 2 vs 1 …

see what I mean or nah?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yeah but what does slightly above average actually look like ?

Post a pic of a 5 and a 6 and demonstrate pls.
Pictured below is comedian Jess Hilarious.

Her face card (in my opinion), is a 5...which is about as average as you can get.

If she drops one step below (4), she is unattractive. But one step up, she'll be kinda cute.

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Pictured below is actress Keke Palmer.

Her face card is my example of a 6.

Slightly above average and ranges in the "She ain't gorgeous, but she's kinda cute" territory.

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I notice also.. except for the OP pic of 3 high school chicks .. OP can’t demonstrate a 5 vs 6 vs 7 vs 8 etc

so if that’s not possible .., what use is the f*cking scale ?! lol :rolleyes:
It's difficult to explain, but you know it when you see it.

Plus if a chick is fat and ugly (sub5) .
Who cares exactly how ugly and exactly how fat she is..? A 4 vs 3 vs 2 vs 1 …

see what I mean or nah?
Well, look at it this way; the sport of basketball.

Would you rather lose by 20 points in a blowout, or by 2 points in a close, competitive game?

A loss is a loss, but all losses ain't created equal.
 

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Pictured below is comedian Jess Hilarious.

Her face card (in my opinion), is a 5...which is about as average as you can get.

If she drops one step below (4), she is unattractive. But one step up, she'll be kinda cute.

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Pictured below is actress Keke Palmer.

Her face card is my example of a 6.

Slightly above average and ranges in the "She ain't gorgeous, but she's kinda cute" territory.

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It's difficult to explain, but you know it when you see it.



Well, look at it this way; the sport of basketball.

Would you rather lose by 20 points in a blowout, or by 2 points in a close, competitive game?

A loss is a loss, but all losses ain't created equal.
well thanks for the pics.
You got the 5 and the 6.
Just for FOUR more to go.... 7, 8, 9 & 10;)
and if that chick is your 6..its gonna be a struggle for ya I reckon .

I lolled at your " its difficult to explain but youll know it when you see it":lol:
I wont. cos I already said , i struggle to differentiate by 1 " point" and I think such a scale has too many problems with it.

Im asking for youze guys to show me , as you believe in it...:rolleyes:
PICTURE PROOF OR NOTHING !!
 

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anyway, Ill spare you the headache @We_ArE_VeNOM
This is all I could get from a google search ( theres not many results tbh)
Yeah sure, this is ok.
But annoyed there is no 10/10 (WTF?)
And imo theres some chicks in the 7s/ 8s/9s Id move around based on my preferences.
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Whats missing is bodies tho.
Bodies shapes are important, whats her rack like, good @ss or nah, has she long legs etc
That fvcks up the scale.

For example this chick - Id imagine OP and some others would say " she looks like a trashy wh0re, —would not bang" :rolleyes:
But CJ would bang. CJ bang hard.
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well thanks for the pics.
You got the 5 and the 6.
Just for FOUR more to go.... 7, 8, 9 & 10;)
You're original request was..

"Post a pic of a 5 and a 6 and demonstrate pls".

And your request was honored by the pics I provided.

Now you've moved the goalpost and want the additional 7-10...which should have been part of your original request if that's what you wanted.

and if that chick is your 6..its gonna be a struggle for ya I reckon .
No, because I can think of many gorgeous/beautiful women who can easily top the 7-10 charts.

Beyonce
Halle Berry
Mya
Sanaa Lathan
Sydney Colsen
DiJonai Carrington
Candace Owens
Amel Larrieux
Ilhan Omar
Keisha Cole

Would you like the list to go on and on, or perhaps we can put all this bs to rest?

I lolled at your " its difficult to explain but youll know it when you see it":lol:
I wont. cos I already said , i struggle to differentiate by 1 " point"
Yeah, and I struggled to bench press 345lbs, but it got done.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and it is a broad spectrum.

and I think such a scale has too many problems with it.
Ok, so if a 1-10 scale has too many problems with it, let's consider a 1-5 scale.

So, on a 1-5 scale, what separates a 4 from a 5?

Or a 3 from a 4?

Oh, so a 1-5 scale is also too problematic for for you?

Ok, so how about a 1-3 scale?

How do you distinguish a 2 from a 3?

or a 1 from a 2?

So using your logic, every scale is problematic.

You may have to put this one to bed, junior.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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