are neg hits really THAT important

[wildchild]

Do you think theres any point throwing in a neg hit if things are already going well with a girl is it a good idea in any situation?

 

[Jariel]

NO! If things are going well, why risk it?

Neg hits are meant for women with egos, to show you aren't intimidated by them. Neg hits are always a risk unless the person knows you well.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

^Co-sign 100%.

I usually don't do them unless she's basically doing it to me first.

 

[Alpine]

I know the theory is that you shouldn't use them unless you need to bring them down a peg or two, but my style that's developed throws one in in anycase.

It seems to snap them into a more attentive mode, much more conducive to getting a result. Now this could be that I'm generally not attracting them to start with, or my theory is, most women assume they have the edge with most blokes, until you prove otherwise. The sooner you do that, the better.

Now don't get me wrong, I don't launch into an insult mode, just show that you are not afraid to put them in their place.

I notice a lot of people who fantasies that if you neg hit when you shouldn't, you'll get slapped or beaten up or something.

Usually this is because they haven't tried it. My experience is AT WORST they will call you a wanker and walk away, and that's if you really, really mess up bad.

 

[Kaine]

Neg hits are meant for women with egos, to show you aren't intimidated by them. Neg hits are always a risk unless the person knows you well.

Agree 100% It is a tool used to bring a girl off her pedestal and break through her b1tch shield. You cannot build rapport or sexual tension with a girl with her b1tch shield up. If she already communicates on the same level or looks up to you then there is no need. Otherwise you will come off as a jerk.

If you understand the concept of a neghit, then you will know that these are in fact hidden insults.

Move on to other more positive flirting techniques such as teasing and playfulness.

Kaine

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by wildchild
Do you think theres any point throwing in a neg hit if things are already going well with a girl is it a good idea in any situation?

No, of course not.

Friendly teasing is one thing...neghits are another. Neghits are supposed to knock a girl off her pedestal. They are NOT a seduction technique.

 

[Bonhomme]

No

Just as the guys said, neg-hits are just for dealing breaking a gal's b1thch shield. That's it.

Teasing, on the other hand, is golden if it's done right, in a playful, fun way, as opposed to truly mean-spirited. That said, a lot of guys don't pull it off, and should steer clear of it.