"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
are neg hits really THAT important
- Thread starter wildchild
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Tha Realnezz
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I usually don't do them unless she's basically doing it to me first.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
It seems to snap them into a more attentive mode, much more conducive to getting a result. Now this could be that I'm generally not attracting them to start with, or my theory is, most women assume they have the edge with most blokes, until you prove otherwise. The sooner you do that, the better.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't launch into an insult mode, just show that you are not afraid to put them in their place.
I notice a lot of people who fantasies that if you neg hit when you shouldn't, you'll get slapped or beaten up or something.
Usually this is because they haven't tried it. My experience is AT WORST they will call you a wanker and walk away, and that's if you really, really mess up bad.
Kaine
Senior Don Juan
Agree 100% It is a tool used to bring a girl off her pedestal and break through her b1tch shield. You cannot build rapport or sexual tension with a girl with her b1tch shield up. If she already communicates on the same level or looks up to you then there is no need. Otherwise you will come off as a jerk.
If you understand the concept of a neghit, then you will know that these are in fact hidden insults.
Move on to other more positive flirting techniques such as teasing and playfulness.
Kaine
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
squirrels
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No, of course not.
Friendly teasing is one thing...neghits are another. Neghits are supposed to knock a girl off her pedestal. They are NOT a seduction technique.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Just as the guys said, neg-hits are just for dealing breaking a gal's b1thch shield. That's it.
Teasing, on the other hand, is golden if it's done right, in a playful, fun way, as opposed to truly mean-spirited. That said, a lot of guys don't pull it off, and should steer clear of it.