"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
are neg hits really THAT important
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Tha Realnezz
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I usually don't do them unless she's basically doing it to me first.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
It seems to snap them into a more attentive mode, much more conducive to getting a result. Now this could be that I'm generally not attracting them to start with, or my theory is, most women assume they have the edge with most blokes, until you prove otherwise. The sooner you do that, the better.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't launch into an insult mode, just show that you are not afraid to put them in their place.
I notice a lot of people who fantasies that if you neg hit when you shouldn't, you'll get slapped or beaten up or something.
Usually this is because they haven't tried it. My experience is AT WORST they will call you a wanker and walk away, and that's if you really, really mess up bad.
Kaine
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Agree 100% It is a tool used to bring a girl off her pedestal and break through her b1tch shield. You cannot build rapport or sexual tension with a girl with her b1tch shield up. If she already communicates on the same level or looks up to you then there is no need. Otherwise you will come off as a jerk.
If you understand the concept of a neghit, then you will know that these are in fact hidden insults.
Move on to other more positive flirting techniques such as teasing and playfulness.
Kaine
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
squirrels
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No, of course not.
Friendly teasing is one thing...neghits are another. Neghits are supposed to knock a girl off her pedestal. They are NOT a seduction technique.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Just as the guys said, neg-hits are just for dealing breaking a gal's b1thch shield. That's it.
Teasing, on the other hand, is golden if it's done right, in a playful, fun way, as opposed to truly mean-spirited. That said, a lot of guys don't pull it off, and should steer clear of it.