"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Are looks more important than personality these days?

crackers444

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I'm curious to hear your views, Do you place more importance on a girl's looks or personality? I find it would be nice to have both qualities, but it doesn't alway's work like that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Teh_Wolf

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for me atm I'm attracted first by looks, and then personality. But if I have no physical attraction I probably wouldnt date her.
 

wjh

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Any DJ with any real and tangible success will tell you there is a lot more to a girl than her looks. Looks aren't good enough. Looks are a dime a dozen. What good are looks if the girl is psychotic, not attracted to you, a b1tch, STD-infested, or any other number of deal breakers? This is why it's important to qualify women. They do it to you, you should be doing it to them.

"ONLY" going after a girl for sex is fine, but I don't run into many guys these days who have the ability to JUST have sex with women, particularly attractive ones, and NOT get attached. Oneitis and an AFC mentality are rampant.

I personally believe looks are very important, but so is personality. I must be attracted to a girl physically, but also desire to be around her. Her femininity has to be particularly alluring. I can have sex with women who don't possess the qualities of LTR-worthy women, but my expectations and whether or not it's worth the trouble become a factor in my decision making.
 

Prodigy746

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As long as the girl is not butt ugly and not super fat i am more concerned about personality.

If we are talking about GF
The way i see it is, you might spend 1-2 hours at the most having sex and enjoying the beauty but chances are you will have to spend 6-7 hrs with her hanging out and talking.

If we are talking about short term gf or one night stand than i could care less about personality... give me the goodies.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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yama600rr

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i guess it depends. if i just wanna fvck the girl, then i can care less about her personality. but with a girlfriend, i would say half and half. i dont care how hot she is, but if i cant talk to the chick and be stimulated, then no way!
 

War Against Betaism

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Looks do matter but for LTR type of women, if she has a great personality with even above average looks, that is great for me. The really hot women are short term flings.
 

Sir-M

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For an Arm trophy... Hotness.. Sizzling

For GF.. something decent looking with a great personality
 

Demon Lord

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I'd rather be with an average looking girl with a great personality than a nutty babe with a perfect body... In the end a p.ssy is a p.ssy.

But why would you like to chose when you can search and find a woman with a sexy body & a sexy mind to give you what you want ? :yes:
 
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