"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are DJs Repressed AFCs???

Juan_Man

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I'm just playing devil's advocate, so don't flame me. Think about it:

1. Waits at least six days to call her after getting the number but he has a hard time waiting at least six minutes.

2. Surrounds himself with several women, when he would rather be with just one.

3. Watches football with the guys when he'd rather be playing touch football with the girl.

4. Withholds complimenting the girl even though she looks great everytime he sees her.

5. Keeps himself busy when he would rather be getting busy.

6. Neghits the girl when he would rather be hitting on her.

7. Does the "****y and funny" routine but feels "tingly and funny" every time she is near him.

8. Blasts Snoop Dogg in his car when the windows are rolled down, but plays some Luther Vandross when the windows are rolled up.

9. Writes the girl off when he would rather be writing her poetry.

10. Nexts the girl when she flakes but still wonders when he will see her next.

What do you think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Agreed completely. I think this describes anybody who looks at this stuff as black and white.

But a true DJ does what he desires and desires what he does.
 

THE_ADDMAN

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I dont think so. if you wanna dig deep enough, all DJs carry "AFC habits" that need to be kept in check. But I dont think a true DJ is ever in denial over his being a DJ. if he wanted to play Luther Vandross with the windows down, he would do it!

"Does the "****y and funny" routine but feels "tingly and funny" every time she is near him."
This sounds like something out of one of those "what a perfect boyfriend would do" chain emails
 

Warboss Alex

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Juan_Man said:
I'm just playing devil's advocate, so don't flame me. Think about it:

1. Waits at least six days to call her after getting the number but he has a hard time waiting at least six minutes.

2. Surrounds himself with several women, when he would rather be with just one.

3. Watches football with the guys when he'd rather be playing touch football with the girl.

4. Withholds complimenting the girl even though she looks great everytime he sees her.

5. Keeps himself busy when he would rather be getting busy.

6. Neghits the girl when he would rather be hitting on her.

7. Does the "****y and funny" routine but feels "tingly and funny" every time she is near him.

8. Blasts Snoop Dogg in his car when the windows are rolled down, but plays some Luther Vandross when the windows are rolled up.

9. Writes the girl off when he would rather be writing her poetry.

10. Nexts the girl when she flakes but still wonders when he will see her next.

What do you think?
I think if you're trying to be something you're not, in any shape or form, then it's wrong. Go with what you feel.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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everywomanshero

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Juan_Man said:
8. Blasts Snoop Dogg in his car when the windows are rolled down, but plays some Luther Vandross when the windows are rolled up.
Funny sh1t!
 

Themanthatcan

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Not repressed.Bettered.Improved.Everyone has certain feelings.It's how you act on them.You'll get your chance w/ what you want to do later.
 

KillaCam

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There are so called "DJ rules", you touched on a few in your post.

A repressed AFC follows the guidelines because he needs something to hold his hand.

A true DJ does what he has to do within reason. He follows his own rules and paths to success.
 
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