"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Are Compliments good or bad?
- Thread starter Rint
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
coolguy676767
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In fact my friend was asking this girl that worked at the place a question and her reply was kind of wrong and he knew the answer, and I was like dang he is doing your job better than you are. Seemed to work wonders, but I had already been talking to her for a couple of minutes so it wasnt too awkward, and I did it smiling, so in certain situations it worked wonders, but its better to do on intelligent girls because then they dont get all offended as easily.
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ethnomethodologist
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If you give her subtle negs about a single subject, every time you see her, and than at the end of the night, tell her you were just ragging on her, she'll love the compliment. It's amazing to see the girls eyes glaze over after she realized what she did to become attractive really did work, on a good guy
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So a girl says ,for instance: You're cute
You(neg hit)- I always said opposites attract.
You(compliment)- I always said that the line opposites attract was wrong and here is the proof.
Tha Realnezz
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Tomatoes
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
coolguy676767
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Me: Yeah you look nice today, where did you buy that jacket...right next to the barney backpacks in the kid section? (Smile)(it was a half length mini jacket that was pinkish purpleish.)
Her
Laughing gasp, thats mean, but she was smiling.)Me:haha, you do look nice today I have just never seen a jacket like that before.
This kind of neg-hit with compliment seems to work good for me.
Here's my advice on complimenting. It comes field tested with success...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=93920
In a LTR obviously the rules change, but in the intiial attraction-building stage it will do you no favours to seem too keen. If she fishes for compliments, tease her. If she gives you compliments in order to receive them back, take hers confidently and rarely reciprocate.
Like James Bond, any compliments you do give should convey that you are an alpha male judging what has been presented to him, not Needy-Joe grateful for a real-life girl.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.