"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Are Compliments good or bad?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
coolguy676767
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In fact my friend was asking this girl that worked at the place a question and her reply was kind of wrong and he knew the answer, and I was like dang he is doing your job better than you are. Seemed to work wonders, but I had already been talking to her for a couple of minutes so it wasnt too awkward, and I did it smiling, so in certain situations it worked wonders, but its better to do on intelligent girls because then they dont get all offended as easily.
Nzo
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ethnomethodologist
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If you give her subtle negs about a single subject, every time you see her, and than at the end of the night, tell her you were just ragging on her, she'll love the compliment. It's amazing to see the girls eyes glaze over after she realized what she did to become attractive really did work, on a good guy
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So a girl says ,for instance: You're cute
You(neg hit)- I always said opposites attract.
You(compliment)- I always said that the line opposites attract was wrong and here is the proof.
Tha Realnezz
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Tomatoes
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
coolguy676767
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Me: Yeah you look nice today, where did you buy that jacket...right next to the barney backpacks in the kid section? (Smile)(it was a half length mini jacket that was pinkish purpleish.)
Her
Laughing gasp, thats mean, but she was smiling.)Me:haha, you do look nice today I have just never seen a jacket like that before.
This kind of neg-hit with compliment seems to work good for me.
Here's my advice on complimenting. It comes field tested with success...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=93920
In a LTR obviously the rules change, but in the intiial attraction-building stage it will do you no favours to seem too keen. If she fishes for compliments, tease her. If she gives you compliments in order to receive them back, take hers confidently and rarely reciprocate.
Like James Bond, any compliments you do give should convey that you are an alpha male judging what has been presented to him, not Needy-Joe grateful for a real-life girl.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.