Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Are Compliments good or bad?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
coolguy676767
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In fact my friend was asking this girl that worked at the place a question and her reply was kind of wrong and he knew the answer, and I was like dang he is doing your job better than you are. Seemed to work wonders, but I had already been talking to her for a couple of minutes so it wasnt too awkward, and I did it smiling, so in certain situations it worked wonders, but its better to do on intelligent girls because then they dont get all offended as easily.
Nzo
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ethnomethodologist
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If you give her subtle negs about a single subject, every time you see her, and than at the end of the night, tell her you were just ragging on her, she'll love the compliment. It's amazing to see the girls eyes glaze over after she realized what she did to become attractive really did work, on a good guy
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So a girl says ,for instance: You're cute
You(neg hit)- I always said opposites attract.
You(compliment)- I always said that the line opposites attract was wrong and here is the proof.
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Tomatoes
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
coolguy676767
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Me: Yeah you look nice today, where did you buy that jacket...right next to the barney backpacks in the kid section? (Smile)(it was a half length mini jacket that was pinkish purpleish.)
Her
Laughing gasp, thats mean, but she was smiling.)Me:haha, you do look nice today I have just never seen a jacket like that before.
This kind of neg-hit with compliment seems to work good for me.
Here's my advice on complimenting. It comes field tested with success...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=93920
In a LTR obviously the rules change, but in the intiial attraction-building stage it will do you no favours to seem too keen. If she fishes for compliments, tease her. If she gives you compliments in order to receive them back, take hers confidently and rarely reciprocate.
Like James Bond, any compliments you do give should convey that you are an alpha male judging what has been presented to him, not Needy-Joe grateful for a real-life girl.
Tomatoes
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.