"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Are Compliments good or bad?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
coolguy676767
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In fact my friend was asking this girl that worked at the place a question and her reply was kind of wrong and he knew the answer, and I was like dang he is doing your job better than you are. Seemed to work wonders, but I had already been talking to her for a couple of minutes so it wasnt too awkward, and I did it smiling, so in certain situations it worked wonders, but its better to do on intelligent girls because then they dont get all offended as easily.
Nzo
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ethnomethodologist
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If you give her subtle negs about a single subject, every time you see her, and than at the end of the night, tell her you were just ragging on her, she'll love the compliment. It's amazing to see the girls eyes glaze over after she realized what she did to become attractive really did work, on a good guy
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So a girl says ,for instance: You're cute
You(neg hit)- I always said opposites attract.
You(compliment)- I always said that the line opposites attract was wrong and here is the proof.
Tha Realnezz
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Tomatoes
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
coolguy676767
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Me: Yeah you look nice today, where did you buy that jacket...right next to the barney backpacks in the kid section? (Smile)(it was a half length mini jacket that was pinkish purpleish.)
Her
Laughing gasp, thats mean, but she was smiling.)Me:haha, you do look nice today I have just never seen a jacket like that before.
This kind of neg-hit with compliment seems to work good for me.
Here's my advice on complimenting. It comes field tested with success...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=93920
In a LTR obviously the rules change, but in the intiial attraction-building stage it will do you no favours to seem too keen. If she fishes for compliments, tease her. If she gives you compliments in order to receive them back, take hers confidently and rarely reciprocate.
Like James Bond, any compliments you do give should convey that you are an alpha male judging what has been presented to him, not Needy-Joe grateful for a real-life girl.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.