"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aquard Silence

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One particular untouched subject everyone seems to deal with is the aquard silence. Its been my theory lately those silent moments won't be so aquard if you don't let it be. Let me explain.

Women seem to be wonderful at guaging our comfort levels. Your talking to them and that silence comes up. Thinking every good DJ should keep the conversationg going ALL THE TIME you guys start to sweat it and girls sence that.

Don't run the women over by constantly trying to lead the convo. Don't waste those silent moments by trying to think of something to say about yourself. Women can tell when your trying to push something so don't try and push it. Just give them a nice smile and enjoy the silence... Be comfortable with it, don't let it be so aquard to you and it won't be so much to her.

The conversation isn't comming to an end. Your little silence won't end all your chances with her. Don't sweat it and she won't either. Now when you get back into the convo she'll give you clues as to what to bring up. JUST RELAX!!!! Don't sweat it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The awkward silence is something I haven't yet had a problem with, nor had a problem with keeping the conversation running. The only way a girl's going to realize that you're trying to get her to keep going about herself is everytime if you end up going back to the same run of the mill questions asking her what she's doing or whatever.
 
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just be interested in the conversation.

oh and btw...no offense but how old are you? your grammar/spelling is pretty awful.

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I knew a genius-IQ woman who sometimes would go quiet, but she was really winding up to say something thoughtful. I had to learn to stop and let her talk.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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