Hey all, for my anthropology class Im doin a paper on dating/relationships and as a result, im doing a survey as one of my sources on what the ladies are lookin for. Ive done a lil surveying but ive been all nervous at making any sort of conversation with the ladies in fear of them thinkin im only wantin somethin from them. As a result, ive been scared to ask the number cause I couldn't get any rapport with them goin while they were fillin out the survey and all. Whats the best way to gain some rapport with them while they are filling it out? Holla back.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
spukee
Don Juan
Ditch the pen and paper, and grab a tape recorder. Interviewing your subjects will break the ice a bit, seem a lot less formal, and you can ask them to recite their number for "posterity." 'Sides, it'll be a lot more fun 
Ima try that out but the problem with me is that, I have a hard time bein myself when approachin women because of my fear that they will walk away because they are too busy and because of that I start talkin 2 fast and am nervous. whats the best way to get rid of that mindset?
Experiance.
The fact is you need to find something that makes you interesting, you have that in the survey. A simple opener is "Hey, I'm doing a college paper. I was wondering if I could interview you for it because you seem like the kind of person it's about." Whilst your interviewing, just make conversation, like "So, you been interviewed before? No, well I haven't done this before either. Was it as good for you as it was for me?"
The more approaches you make the more you'll be able to cope with them walking off and see it really doesn't matter. I conquered my fear of rejection when I asked the girl I most fancied out, she turned me down in a nice way and then made her excuses. I still talked to her afterwards, and in fact I think she rather likes me, but I haven't seen her in months. The thing is after I was blown off, the pressure came off and I started acting more real. Once you have the pressure off you'll feel the same.
If you want their number as well, start with that as well. Just look at them and say, "Woah, you're hot. Sorry, I just had to say it. I'm doing a college paper about relationships, can I survey you? It's just like Family Fortunes."
The fact is you need to find something that makes you interesting, you have that in the survey. A simple opener is "Hey, I'm doing a college paper. I was wondering if I could interview you for it because you seem like the kind of person it's about." Whilst your interviewing, just make conversation, like "So, you been interviewed before? No, well I haven't done this before either. Was it as good for you as it was for me?"
The more approaches you make the more you'll be able to cope with them walking off and see it really doesn't matter. I conquered my fear of rejection when I asked the girl I most fancied out, she turned me down in a nice way and then made her excuses. I still talked to her afterwards, and in fact I think she rather likes me, but I haven't seen her in months. The thing is after I was blown off, the pressure came off and I started acting more real. Once you have the pressure off you'll feel the same.
If you want their number as well, start with that as well. Just look at them and say, "Woah, you're hot. Sorry, I just had to say it. I'm doing a college paper about relationships, can I survey you? It's just like Family Fortunes."
spukee
Don Juan
Reach has it pretty much nailed. The only way you'll get over your fear of rejection is by experiencing it; hundreds of times over. This survey could be a real blessing for you if you have trouble approaching women. Just do it - tell yourself you're doing it for class if it makes you feel better, but just do it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.