Hey all, for my anthropology class Im doin a paper on dating/relationships and as a result, im doing a survey as one of my sources on what the ladies are lookin for. Ive done a lil surveying but ive been all nervous at making any sort of conversation with the ladies in fear of them thinkin im only wantin somethin from them. As a result, ive been scared to ask the number cause I couldn't get any rapport with them goin while they were fillin out the survey and all. Whats the best way to gain some rapport with them while they are filling it out? Holla back.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
spukee
Don Juan
Ditch the pen and paper, and grab a tape recorder. Interviewing your subjects will break the ice a bit, seem a lot less formal, and you can ask them to recite their number for "posterity." 'Sides, it'll be a lot more fun 
Ima try that out but the problem with me is that, I have a hard time bein myself when approachin women because of my fear that they will walk away because they are too busy and because of that I start talkin 2 fast and am nervous. whats the best way to get rid of that mindset?
Experiance.
The fact is you need to find something that makes you interesting, you have that in the survey. A simple opener is "Hey, I'm doing a college paper. I was wondering if I could interview you for it because you seem like the kind of person it's about." Whilst your interviewing, just make conversation, like "So, you been interviewed before? No, well I haven't done this before either. Was it as good for you as it was for me?"
The more approaches you make the more you'll be able to cope with them walking off and see it really doesn't matter. I conquered my fear of rejection when I asked the girl I most fancied out, she turned me down in a nice way and then made her excuses. I still talked to her afterwards, and in fact I think she rather likes me, but I haven't seen her in months. The thing is after I was blown off, the pressure came off and I started acting more real. Once you have the pressure off you'll feel the same.
If you want their number as well, start with that as well. Just look at them and say, "Woah, you're hot. Sorry, I just had to say it. I'm doing a college paper about relationships, can I survey you? It's just like Family Fortunes."
The fact is you need to find something that makes you interesting, you have that in the survey. A simple opener is "Hey, I'm doing a college paper. I was wondering if I could interview you for it because you seem like the kind of person it's about." Whilst your interviewing, just make conversation, like "So, you been interviewed before? No, well I haven't done this before either. Was it as good for you as it was for me?"
The more approaches you make the more you'll be able to cope with them walking off and see it really doesn't matter. I conquered my fear of rejection when I asked the girl I most fancied out, she turned me down in a nice way and then made her excuses. I still talked to her afterwards, and in fact I think she rather likes me, but I haven't seen her in months. The thing is after I was blown off, the pressure came off and I started acting more real. Once you have the pressure off you'll feel the same.
If you want their number as well, start with that as well. Just look at them and say, "Woah, you're hot. Sorry, I just had to say it. I'm doing a college paper about relationships, can I survey you? It's just like Family Fortunes."
spukee
Don Juan
Reach has it pretty much nailed. The only way you'll get over your fear of rejection is by experiencing it; hundreds of times over. This survey could be a real blessing for you if you have trouble approaching women. Just do it - tell yourself you're doing it for class if it makes you feel better, but just do it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.