i need some tips on how to approach this girl i've been checking out. Now i know what your thinking, but it is not that easy to just walk over and ask her out because she is always surrounded by her family(which mostly consists of little kids). I think she has a little interest in me because just about every time i look her way she is staring at me, even when she is in the house she looks out the window multiple times. I've been racking my brain trying to think of something to say but i can't come up with anything. I have had my share of girlfriends, but i never approached any of them, we always moved from the "girl-friend" stage to the "girlfriend" stage. I've heard from a lot of girls that i'm a pretty good looking guy and one girl told me that she was so nervous to meet me that she couldn't help but just stare at me(not to brag or anything). I know this is long, but i need help.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
approaching tips
- Thread starter Jay Mac
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
