i need some tips on how to approach this girl i've been checking out. Now i know what your thinking, but it is not that easy to just walk over and ask her out because she is always surrounded by her family(which mostly consists of little kids). I think she has a little interest in me because just about every time i look her way she is staring at me, even when she is in the house she looks out the window multiple times. I've been racking my brain trying to think of something to say but i can't come up with anything. I have had my share of girlfriends, but i never approached any of them, we always moved from the "girl-friend" stage to the "girlfriend" stage. I've heard from a lot of girls that i'm a pretty good looking guy and one girl told me that she was so nervous to meet me that she couldn't help but just stare at me(not to brag or anything). I know this is long, but i need help.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
approaching tips
- Thread starter Jay Mac
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
