i need some tips on how to approach this girl i've been checking out. Now i know what your thinking, but it is not that easy to just walk over and ask her out because she is always surrounded by her family(which mostly consists of little kids). I think she has a little interest in me because just about every time i look her way she is staring at me, even when she is in the house she looks out the window multiple times. I've been racking my brain trying to think of something to say but i can't come up with anything. I have had my share of girlfriends, but i never approached any of them, we always moved from the "girl-friend" stage to the "girlfriend" stage. I've heard from a lot of girls that i'm a pretty good looking guy and one girl told me that she was so nervous to meet me that she couldn't help but just stare at me(not to brag or anything). I know this is long, but i need help.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
approaching tips
- Thread starter Jay Mac
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
