i need some tips on how to approach this girl i've been checking out. Now i know what your thinking, but it is not that easy to just walk over and ask her out because she is always surrounded by her family(which mostly consists of little kids). I think she has a little interest in me because just about every time i look her way she is staring at me, even when she is in the house she looks out the window multiple times. I've been racking my brain trying to think of something to say but i can't come up with anything. I have had my share of girlfriends, but i never approached any of them, we always moved from the "girl-friend" stage to the "girlfriend" stage. I've heard from a lot of girls that i'm a pretty good looking guy and one girl told me that she was so nervous to meet me that she couldn't help but just stare at me(not to brag or anything). I know this is long, but i need help.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
approaching tips
- Thread starter Jay Mac
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
