"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Approaching Super Cute Girl?

TheWayOfAllFlesh

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Yehh I have a problem with it and cant seem to talk to that cute girl who I know will like me once i get chatting. Just can't seem to bring myself to do it for fear of rejection and not knowing what to say.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Furyguy

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is it seriously that easy?
Pretty much dude. As long as you're saying something that's not boring and not retarded, you'll probably do OK.

It's not like you need to have a philosophical debate here. Jump in, say some dumb crap for a minute or two, get her name, then pop out out come back to say hi later.

You can always ask her what she's drinking. I like that one. If it's alcoholic, accuse her of being drunk. If it's not, give her **** for it. Or the old "Hey, I know you!". The possibilities are endless!

I still think the hardest part is starting the movement.

The trick I use:
Move your foot, or arm, or head, or anything, even a slight bit in her direction, and once you start moving it's easier to keep going than it is to turn back. Once you just START the approach everything gets a hell of a lot easier. It's like the hill you have to climb so you can coast the rest of the way down. Just get moving and you'll find the hardest part is over.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hi I'm X. I'm assuming she's already given you IOI's since you said you know she will like you once you talk to her If she's already attracted to you just about anything will work
 

TheWayOfAllFlesh

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hondo928 said:
Hi I'm X. I'm assuming she's already given you IOI's since you said you know she will like you once you talk to her If she's already attracted to you just about anything will work
Yeah i've had IOI's before. The last monday she was with her classmates behind me in the library so I thought 'yehh boi this could work to your advantage...make some eye contact'. I did and she was responsive. I saw this thing on sosuave the other day which said if the both of you make eye contact three times she wants to speak to you. I knew this and thought 'lets take this further' so i turned in my swivel chair reading the daily paper pretending to talk to my mate whilst focusing my entire body her way. I knew she was digging this cos whenever I looked up her body was leaning towards me/facing me more and was giving me some nice IOI's like REALLY scruffing up with her hair and staring at my crotch and shoes. So after all signs point to yes I still manage to have fear about starting to chat with her.

If it is as easy as people say I don't see why I still have the underlying fear
 
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Mr Autobahn

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Furyguy said:
I still think the hardest part is starting the movement.

The trick I use:
Move your foot, or arm, or head, or anything, even a slight bit in her direction, and once you start moving it's easier to keep going than it is to turn back.
LOL! I like that!

If you do approach the girl, your chances of success goes up dramatically.

If you DON'T approach the girl, your chances of success is zero.
 
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